Need help Interpreting Wedding Invitation

Re: Need help Interpreting Wedding Invitation

• xx802xx member

  

  January 2015 edited January 2015

  Do you know any of the guests that will be attending, can you ask them without making it awkward for the bride or groom? From what you said it appears that only you and your husband are invited...but to only be invited to the ceremony and not the reception...especially for a destination wedding, would be extremely rude.

  

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• PrettyGirlLost member

  

  January 2015

  Honestly, just have your husband ask his good friend the groom if there was a reception to follow.  He can say he's just curious because there was no insert with an address or anything.
  
  Or if you don't think the groom has the correct info, just ask the Bride.  Too bad if it makes her feel awkward- her invitations are not done properly, despite having them professionally done.  Usually there's a line to indicate "Reception to Follow" or an insert with the reception venue information.
  
  And if this couple is actually having a tiered event and you are only invited to the ceremony, then that is rude as hell and the Bride should be made to feel awkward.  She's the one being impolite.
  

  
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• aurianna member

  

  January 2015

  I normally would say the invite is just addressed to you so don't ask about the kids.
  But your kids were verbally invited. So I could see its being possible that they just didn't realize they needed to put the kids' names on the invite.
  
  I'd have your husband just ask the groom (or you ask the bride) something like this:
  "Hey buddy. We got your invite! I just wanted to get some more information. I wanted to verify that the invite is just for sleddin and I? Also there wasn't any info on the reception. Is there anything we need to know about the time/location of it?"
  
  Hopefully phrasing the kid thing like that would not be presumptive.
  And phrasing the reception question like that SHOULD be presumptive. Because you should have been invited.
  
  If you got invited to showers and went and gave gifts and then they don't feed you at their wedding... omg.
  
  
  

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• NYCMercedes member

  

  January 2015

  Reception cards are usually a separate enclosure. Could this be the case? Maybe they forgot to put it in the envelope.

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• SP29 member

  

  January 2015

  I would assume that only you and your husband are invited. Just because other children will be there, does not mean yours are automatically invited. However, if DH was verbally told your kids would be invited then I would get him to ask the groom to clarify- that is not rude if you were verbally told something that doesn't match up.

  
  

  The reception part is odd. Usually an invite at the least says, "Reception to follow". I would definitely ask- because there SHOULD be a reception, so that would not be rude of you. You need to know the address for all locations. Again, I'd get husband to ask the groom, since they are good friends. 

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• sleddin member

  

  January 2015

  Odd timing, but the groom actually stopped by for a visit with my husband yesterday afternoon.  I wasn't there, but he said that of course the kids were invited and that there is a reception at the same location.  He had nothing to do with the invitations, and admitted he hadn't even seen them.  He's a very laid-back guy, with likely little direct involvement in the planning.  I do not know any other guests, nor the bride other than meeting her twice.
  
  Given the verbal invite directly from the groom, and the lack of reception mention (or maybe missing reception card), I now plan to RSVP with all of us attending. Should I send a personal note to the bride with or even separate from the RSVP stating that I included the kids because the groom said they were invited, but that I would gladly make other arrangements if there has been a misunderstanding, or is this stirring the pot?  This would in truth be difficult to arrange for an out-of-state weekend, and we really do want the kids to go as they just adore the groom--a mutual sentiment.  My husband says the groom settled the issue, so just send the RSVP without worrying, but Ms. Manners is otherwise screaming at me in my head.
  
  Thank you kindly for all of your replies, and any additional advice or perspective is greatly appreciated.
  

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• lovegood90 member

  

  January 2015

  sleddin said:

  Odd timing, but the groom actually stopped by for a visit with my husband yesterday afternoon.  I wasn't there, but he said that of course the kids were invited and that there is a reception at the same location.  He had nothing to do with the invitations, and admitted he hadn't even seen them.  He's a very laid-back guy, with likely little direct involvement in the planning.  I do not know any other guests, nor the bride other than meeting her twice.
  
  Given the verbal invite directly from the groom, and the lack of reception mention (or maybe missing reception card), I now plan to RSVP with all of us attending. Should I send a personal note to the bride with or even separate from the RSVP stating that I included the kids because the groom said they were invited, but that I would gladly make other arrangements if there has been a misunderstanding, or is this stirring the pot?  This would in truth be difficult to arrange for an out-of-state weekend, and we really do want the kids to go as they just adore the groom--a mutual sentiment.  My husband says the groom settled the issue, so just send the RSVP without worrying, but Ms. Manners is otherwise screaming at me in my head.
  
  Thank you kindly for all of your replies, and any additional advice or perspective is greatly appreciated.
  

  I think since the groom settled it with you guys directly there's no need for the extra note. I wouldn't worry about it.
  

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