Wedding transportation

Re: Wedding transportation

• southernbelle0915 mod

  

  January 2015

  Knottie90480501 said:

  Ok first time ever posting lol. Here goes, I live in Notre Dame, IN & will be having my wedding/reception September 19th in Battle Creek, MI(about an hour and a half away) where my dad lives. Wedding at his house, reception at his bar/concert venue not 10 minutes from there. My fiancé's whole family lives in the Notre Dame area & my whole family with the exception of my dad and step mom live in Fort Wayne, IN with a few sprinkled throughout the Midwest. Ft. Wayne is roughly the same distance as notre dame is from BC. My mild dilemma is that FMIL has agreed to provide a little bit of money to provide something like a shuttle from Notre Dame area to there and back, the thing with that is would that be fair to my side(it's her money & it's a great idea, but I have family members who'll definitely complain), because though my dad is paying for mostly everything, providing transportation for them isn't going to be on that list? Also, are we supposed to provide the hotel rooms? & how would we work it out for people that don't want to stay the night? I'm new to this obviously and I'm wondering if I should just have the wedding & reception in town to avoid it all. Any suggestions and ideas would be greatly appreciated!

  If your FMIL wants to privately coordinate transportation for her family, let her go ahead. If I were you, I wouldn't touch that with a 10 foot pole. Let her organize if it she wants to, but don't get involved. It's not your responsibility to make sure people arrive at your wedding. It's theirs. To do this, I'd just say, "FMIL, that's really ok. We have a lot on our plates right now, so if you want to organize a car pool with your side of the family, go ahead. It's just more than we can take on."

  
  

  No, you don't have to pay for hotels. If you want to help them out, call a hotel near your dad's bar and ask for a room block. This will give your guests a discounted rate on lodging. You're by no means required to pay for anyone's lodging except your own. The people who want to stay the night will book a hotel. The people who don't will drive home.

  
  

  Neither of these things are yours to worry about. Let them gooooo!!

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• Knottie90480501 member

  

  January 2015

  Thank you, I didn't even know how to begin with that one. She is a lovely lady but gets offended easily, so I'll just take your suggestion & run with it.

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• lyndausvi mod

  

  January 2015 edited January 2015

  I would let FMIL handle that on her own. Do not put it in the invitations or anything.  

  
  

   If your family gets pissy that is on them.   They have the ability to do the same on their side.  If they point out the bus and question it just simply say the groom's family went in together to get the bus on their own. You would not involved. 

  
  

  
  

  BTW - My BIL's family did the same for his side.  My family didn't question why all his aunts/uncles got out of a limo/bus.   Except to say "hey, that was a good idea, I will have to think of that in the future."'

  
  

  ETA - now that I think about it, my dad rented a limo for all my aunts/uncles for my brother's OOT wedding in AZ.   If SIL's family complained I'm not aware.  Dad did it to be nice to his in-laws and was under not obligation to extend that option to everyone.  Dad also paid for the same groups hotel.  No one knew until the checked-out.  It's dad's money, he can do what he wants.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  

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• Knottie90480501 member

  

  January 2015

  Thank you both!

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