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Has anyone else had a situation where you just wanted to pat your man on the head and say "so pretty"? When I step back and think about it I don't know why I thought he would say anything different but it just made me laugh..

First we were browsing dresses, I wanted to get a feel for what he liked and I said something about "yeah, like that but not in white" his response was "you aren't wearing white?" Um no.. not stark white.. he looked puzzled for a minute and then came back with "that's cool, just didn't know anyone wore anything else". Then I took him into a shoe store and started pointing out boots (winter wedding in the snow) and his response: "you're wearing boots? with a dress?" Yes sweetie, don't want to lose any toes. I then had to explain you can't even really see the shoes unless it's a short dress.. his response again" that's cool, just never seen anyone wear boots". 

Just realizing that for most men a wedding is so far out of their comfort zone it's cute.. anyone else have this happen?

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  • mikenbergermikenberger member
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    lovemesomemonster said:
    Has anyone else had a situation where you just wanted to pat your man on the head and say "so pretty"? When I step back and think about it I don't know why I thought he would say anything different but it just made me laugh..

    First we were browsing dresses, I wanted to get a feel for what he liked and I said something about "yeah, like that but not in white" his response was "you aren't wearing white?" Um no.. not stark white.. he looked puzzled for a minute and then came back with "that's cool, just didn't know anyone wore anything else". Then I took him into a shoe store and started pointing out boots (winter wedding in the snow) and his response: "you're wearing boots? with a dress?" Yes sweetie, don't want to lose any toes. I then had to explain you can't even really see the shoes unless it's a short dress.. his response again" that's cool, just never seen anyone wear boots". 

    Just realizing that for most men a wedding is so far out of their comfort zone it's cute.. anyone else have this happen?
    I would not ever dare to take my FI wedding dress browsing with me. 
    1- I love what little sanity I have left. Hearing "You're spending WHAT on a dress???" Would drive me BSC.
    2- I love my fiance. He doesn't want to go shopping. He doesn't want to hear about my shopping. He's been instructed that I am the most gorgeous bride he's ever seen and he should address me as such.
    3- He would never. Ever. understand the choices I make and why I make them (for attire). He need not be involved.

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    I don't really think it is the wedding that is out of his comfort zone but rather talking about dresses, different color whites and women's shoes that are out of his comfort zone.  Try to reverse the situation.  Say your FI is really into cars and all you know are the basics, like turning it on and putting it in drive.  So if he starts talking about how he is going to change his exhaust to something a bit more spiffy, you would probably say "oh there are different types of exhausts?  I had no idea."

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    Maggie0829 said:
    I don't really think it is the wedding that is out of his comfort zone but rather talking about dresses, different color whites and women's shoes that are out of his comfort zone.  Try to reverse the situation.  Say your FI is really into cars and all you know are the basics, like turning it on and putting it in drive.  So if he starts talking about how he is going to change his exhaust to something a bit more spiffy, you would probably say "oh there are different types of exhausts?  I had no idea."
    Oh trust me.. everything "design" and "wedding" is out of this man's comfort zone and I have no problem with that. It was just very cute to listen to him talk about it.. For the record I did NOT drag him through a bridal salon, he wanted to see what I was looking at online and just happened to be in town with me (it's a 45min drive) when I wanted to go into a particular store to look at shoes. He wanted to be "involved" which is odd for him so I let him be, just enjoyed the clueless look I usually get on my face when he's talking about what's wrong with my car! Not insulting him at all, just wondering if anyone else had their man want to get involved and then look completely dumb struck in the end!

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    climbingwife said:
    lovemesomemonster said:
    Has anyone else had a situation where you just wanted to pat your man on the head and say "so pretty"? When I step back and think about it I don't know why I thought he would say anything different but it just made me laugh..

    First we were browsing dresses, I wanted to get a feel for what he liked and I said something about "yeah, like that but not in white" his response was "you aren't wearing white?" Um no.. not stark white.. he looked puzzled for a minute and then came back with "that's cool, just didn't know anyone wore anything else". Then I took him into a shoe store and started pointing out boots (winter wedding in the snow) and his response: "you're wearing boots? with a dress?" Yes sweetie, don't want to lose any toes. I then had to explain you can't even really see the shoes unless it's a short dress.. his response again" that's cool, just never seen anyone wear boots". 

    Just realizing that for most men a wedding is so far out of their comfort zone it's cute.. anyone else have this happen?
    To the bolded - NO. That's a totally condescending attitude to have towards your FI, and I think your attitude is pretty gross. Is there a particular subject you don't know much about? How would you feel if you were trying to understand something, and your FI patted you on the head and said, "Aww, nice try. You're pretty though." You probably wouldn't be too happy. 
    READ my post just BEFORE the one that you posted about my attitude.. It was cute the way he wanted to be involved and MOST of the things we do together I am the clueless one so it was funny to laugh together that he was finally in my shoes.. AKA: I know nothing about house remodel, working on my car etc.. he is the one that digs my snowmobile out when I'm in a tree and not sure how I got there. We can LAUGH together about things the other knows not a lot about.. My question wasn't intended to be rude to the men, it was more of a question of "what did you man want to be involved with and then realized he has no idea what's going on?" The look on his face when working this out was very endearing to me that is why I shared.. when you take a farm boy out of his element it is adorable, and most of the time I'm the one in that situation so it was funny to both of us that the tables were turned.

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    lovemesomemonster said:
    climbingwife said:
    lovemesomemonster said:
    Has anyone else had a situation where you just wanted to pat your man on the head and say "so pretty"? When I step back and think about it I don't know why I thought he would say anything different but it just made me laugh..

    First we were browsing dresses, I wanted to get a feel for what he liked and I said something about "yeah, like that but not in white" his response was "you aren't wearing white?" Um no.. not stark white.. he looked puzzled for a minute and then came back with "that's cool, just didn't know anyone wore anything else". Then I took him into a shoe store and started pointing out boots (winter wedding in the snow) and his response: "you're wearing boots? with a dress?" Yes sweetie, don't want to lose any toes. I then had to explain you can't even really see the shoes unless it's a short dress.. his response again" that's cool, just never seen anyone wear boots". 

    Just realizing that for most men a wedding is so far out of their comfort zone it's cute.. anyone else have this happen?
    To the bolded - NO. That's a totally condescending attitude to have towards your FI, and I think your attitude is pretty gross. Is there a particular subject you don't know much about? How would you feel if you were trying to understand something, and your FI patted you on the head and said, "Aww, nice try. You're pretty though." You probably wouldn't be too happy. 
    READ my post just BEFORE the one that you posted about my attitude.. It was cute the way he wanted to be involved and MOST of the things we do together I am the clueless one so it was funny to laugh together that he was finally in my shoes.. AKA: I know nothing about house remodel, working on my car etc.. he is the one that digs my snowmobile out when I'm in a tree and not sure how I got there. We can LAUGH together about things the other knows not a lot about.. My question wasn't intended to be rude to the men, it was more of a question of "what did you man want to be involved with and then realized he has no idea what's going on?" The look on his face when working this out was very endearing to me that is why I shared.. when you take a farm boy out of his element it is adorable, and most of the time I'm the one in that situation so it was funny to both of us that the tables were turned.
    I read your post. Your attitude towards your FI was condescending. Patting someone on the head and saying, "so pretty" is patronizing. I wouldn't ever treat my husband that way, because that's not what you do to people that you respect. But hey, that's just me. You're more than welcome to laugh at your "cute, clueless" FI. How adorable. 

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    climbingwife said:
    lovemesomemonster said:
    climbingwife said:
    lovemesomemonster said:
    Has anyone else had a situation where you just wanted to pat your man on the head and say "so pretty"? When I step back and think about it I don't know why I thought he would say anything different but it just made me laugh..

    First we were browsing dresses, I wanted to get a feel for what he liked and I said something about "yeah, like that but not in white" his response was "you aren't wearing white?" Um no.. not stark white.. he looked puzzled for a minute and then came back with "that's cool, just didn't know anyone wore anything else". Then I took him into a shoe store and started pointing out boots (winter wedding in the snow) and his response: "you're wearing boots? with a dress?" Yes sweetie, don't want to lose any toes. I then had to explain you can't even really see the shoes unless it's a short dress.. his response again" that's cool, just never seen anyone wear boots". 

    Just realizing that for most men a wedding is so far out of their comfort zone it's cute.. anyone else have this happen?
    To the bolded - NO. That's a totally condescending attitude to have towards your FI, and I think your attitude is pretty gross. Is there a particular subject you don't know much about? How would you feel if you were trying to understand something, and your FI patted you on the head and said, "Aww, nice try. You're pretty though." You probably wouldn't be too happy. 
    READ my post just BEFORE the one that you posted about my attitude.. It was cute the way he wanted to be involved and MOST of the things we do together I am the clueless one so it was funny to laugh together that he was finally in my shoes.. AKA: I know nothing about house remodel, working on my car etc.. he is the one that digs my snowmobile out when I'm in a tree and not sure how I got there. We can LAUGH together about things the other knows not a lot about.. My question wasn't intended to be rude to the men, it was more of a question of "what did you man want to be involved with and then realized he has no idea what's going on?" The look on his face when working this out was very endearing to me that is why I shared.. when you take a farm boy out of his element it is adorable, and most of the time I'm the one in that situation so it was funny to both of us that the tables were turned.
    I read your post. Your attitude towards your FI was condescending. Patting someone on the head and saying, "so pretty" is patronizing. I wouldn't ever treat my husband that way, because that's not what you do to people that you respect. But hey, that's just me. You're more than welcome to laugh at your "cute, clueless" FI. How adorable. 

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    Thanks, I will do that, we enjoy laughing together and know that we are not being disrespectful when we are doing it at the expense of the other one. There is no need to argue, sounds like we have very different relationships and you have nothing to add about a portion of your wedding your man wanted to be involved in and then was a bit lost and that's fine. 

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  • ashley8918ashley8918 member
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    lovemesomemonster said:
    Has anyone else had a situation where you just wanted to pat your man on the head and say "so pretty"? When I step back and think about it I don't know why I thought he would say anything different but it just made me laugh..

    First we were browsing dresses, I wanted to get a feel for what he liked and I said something about "yeah, like that but not in white" his response was "you aren't wearing white?" Um no.. not stark white.. he looked puzzled for a minute and then came back with "that's cool, just didn't know anyone wore anything else". Then I took him into a shoe store and started pointing out boots (winter wedding in the snow) and his response: "you're wearing boots? with a dress?" Yes sweetie, don't want to lose any toes. I then had to explain you can't even really see the shoes unless it's a short dress.. his response again" that's cool, just never seen anyone wear boots". 

    Just realizing that for most men a wedding is so far out of their comfort zone it's cute.. anyone else have this happen?
    Uh, nope. I'm not into being hella rude and patronizing to my husband.
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    ashley8918 said:
    lovemesomemonster said:
    Has anyone else had a situation where you just wanted to pat your man on the head and say "so pretty"? When I step back and think about it I don't know why I thought he would say anything different but it just made me laugh..

    First we were browsing dresses, I wanted to get a feel for what he liked and I said something about "yeah, like that but not in white" his response was "you aren't wearing white?" Um no.. not stark white.. he looked puzzled for a minute and then came back with "that's cool, just didn't know anyone wore anything else". Then I took him into a shoe store and started pointing out boots (winter wedding in the snow) and his response: "you're wearing boots? with a dress?" Yes sweetie, don't want to lose any toes. I then had to explain you can't even really see the shoes unless it's a short dress.. his response again" that's cool, just never seen anyone wear boots". 

    Just realizing that for most men a wedding is so far out of their comfort zone it's cute.. anyone else have this happen?
    Uh, nope. I'm not into being hella rude and patronizing to my husband.
    Yep, taken totally out of concept again, no problem, thanks for your response. 

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    OP, I know that's not how you meant it, but that's how it sounds. It might have been a joke, but it sure as fuck wasn't funny.
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  • hyechica81hyechica81 member
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    saw and episode yesterday for say yes to the dress atlanta omg the bride brought her fiance with her and a few other family members fiance was paying for the dress so she thought he should have a say in what dress she was going to buy. all fiance wanted was for her to wear a nice poofy dress and she wanted something that was not a ballgown and more lacy 

    she loves this dress and hes like no its no your dress so she tries on a poffy dress and she hates it. so she goes back to her orginal pick they jack her up and she says yes to the dress in the end he was happy she was happy but i think she was regreting taking him

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  • ashley8918ashley8918 member
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    lovemesomemonster said: ashley8918 said: lovemesomemonster said:
    Has anyone else had a situation where you just wanted to pat your man on the head and say "so pretty"? When I step back and think about it I don't know why I thought he would say anything different but it just made me laugh..
    First we were browsing dresses, I wanted to get a feel for what he liked and I said something about "yeah, like that but not in white" his response was "you aren't wearing white?" Um no.. not stark white.. he looked puzzled for a minute and then came back with "that's cool, just didn't know anyone wore anything else". Then I took him into a shoe store and started pointing out boots (winter wedding in the snow) and his response: "you're wearing boots? with a dress?" Yes sweetie, don't want to lose any toes. I then had to explain you can't even really see the shoes unless it's a short dress.. his response again" that's cool, just never seen anyone wear boots". 
    Just realizing that for most men a wedding is so far out of their comfort zone it's cute.. anyone else have this happen?



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    Uh, nope. I'm not into being hella rude and patronizing to my husband.




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    Yep, taken totally out of concept again, no problem, thanks for your response. 


    ___________________________________________________________________I assume you meant out of     context? If so, no it wasn't taken out of context. You provided the context in your OP. Super rude and patronizing.
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    Honestly, I AGREE with your FI.  A wedding in the snow, with the bride wearing boots, sounds ridiculous to me.  Boots do not go with formal dresses.  Neither does rain, ice or snow.
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  • minksterweddingminksterwedding member
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    lol this post made me laugh! my fiance does similar things! I was like "do you have any preference on my dress?" and he said "uh...white?" every idea i shoot at him he's like "no way!" then i show him someone else who did it and he's like "oh yeah! that's cool! lets do that!" it's like they have to see it in action. 
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    minksterwedding said:
    lol this post made me laugh! my fiance does similar things! I was like "do you have any preference on my dress?" and he said "uh...white?" every idea i shoot at him he's like "no way!" then i show him someone else who did it and he's like "oh yeah! that's cool! lets do that!" it's like they have to see it in action. 
    They totally do! And it makes me giggle because that's usually me when he's like "well we can do this or this with the transition to the bathroom floor" Um.. what!?

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