Hi, I joined to ask about how my friend is treating her bridesmaids. She got engaged a year ago and is getting married in May. It's been nothing but drama ever since the engagement. Seriously just whining about everything and even though I've repeatedly asked nicely to talk something other than the wedding, nothing works. Every time we meet up it's so she can complain about something. It's annoying, but I've tried to grin and bear it as I know some people get like that. I'm getting to the end of my rope, though. I told her early on that I couldn't afford a very expensive bridesmaid dress as we are saving for our own wedding. She said she understood, and then went and picked a $450 dress. She guilt tripped me into buying it. My fault on that, I know, I should have stood my ground. Then, she guilt tripped me because I told her I couldn't throw her a shower since I'd spent so much for the dress.
She just freaked out again because she had a shower in Miami on Sunday. That's 4 and a half hours away from my house. She told me I was being a horrible bridesmaid because I only stayed for an hour - I had to work the next day! I gave her a very nice gift and she's still mad. I asked another friend who is uninvolved with the wedding, and she said she wouldn't have attended a shower that far away, let alone on Sunday. She told all the other bridesmaids I was being awful. Now she's mad at me again because I'm only attending one day of her bachelorette party which is also in Miami. Again, that's 4 and a half hours away and I'm only coming to one day because I have to work. Is this normal or am I the crazy one? She keeps telling me I'm embarrassing her by not staying at these parties. I think she's acting nuts but the guilt trips are making me feel bad (and angry!) I have my own life and own things to plan...