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Is this dress too inappropriate for a bridesmaid? :/

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My friend gave us a basic list to follow for picking out our dresses (style doesn't matter as long as it's a black matte material aka not shiny, at least knee-length, doesn't show clevage, etc). I went out with her today to start looking for mine because I wanted her opinion on any dress I found to make sure it was okay with her. I can't say how hard it was to find a SIMPLE black dress with no ruffles, sparkles or that didn't scrunch up on the sides (which definitely wouldn't work because we'll have a colored ribbon tied around our waist so it needs to have a smooth material or it will look stupid). I found a nice dress that fit perfectly for a great price at JCPenney. She approved. 

But I'm wondering... do you think this is too fitting for a bridesmaid dress, even if the bride herself said it's okay? 
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  • BrandNewJBrandNewJ member
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    If the bride said it's fine, then it's fine. If you're not comfortable, that's a different story and you should find a different dress that won't be a problem for you come the wedding. For the record, I think it's fine.
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  • Knottie98742587Knottie98742587 member
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    Thank you! I feel comfortable in it but then another friend basically said it looked "too good" and to remember it's the bride's day so that got me second-guessing the entire thing and the reason I posted here for opinions on the matter lol

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  • BrandNewJBrandNewJ member
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    That's crazy, it's completely fine. It has a high neck and goes to the knees. What's the problem with that? Also, she's the bride. There isn't much a bridesmaid can do to outshine the bride.
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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    I can't see your picture, but if the bride said it's all good, you're stressing about nothing.

    Your friend is being dumb; no one outshines the woman in the big white dress. She's the bride - the entire event revolves around her and the person she's marrying.

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  • BrandNewJBrandNewJ member
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    manateehugger said:

    I can't see your picture, but if the bride said it's all good, you're stressing about nothing.

    Your friend is being dumb; no one outshines the woman in the big white dress. She's the bride - the entire event revolves around her and the person she's marrying.


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  • Knottie98742587Knottie98742587 member
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    That's what I thought too! Her dress is absolutely gorgeous, poofy and sparkly... she honestly looks like a princess.

    Thank you ladies, SO much!
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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    BrandNewJ said:
    manateehugger said:

    I can't see your picture, but if the bride said it's all good, you're stressing about nothing.

    Your friend is being dumb; no one outshines the woman in the big white dress. She's the bride - the entire event revolves around her and the person she's marrying.


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    OHH! Thanks for the pro-tip. And yeah, this dress is totally fine! Flattering LBD. I have a dress in a similar cut that is one of my standard go-to's for weddings and cocktail parties. You're friend is being ridiculous.  
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  • hellohkbhellohkb mod
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    Personally, I think it's a gorgeous dress. You look stunning and it's totally appropriate. And even better, it's a classic LBD and you can wear it again.


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  • WhatawagSBNyWhatawagSBNy member
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    Not fine would be taking such a stylish dress and putting a colored ribbon around it. I do not get the look of that. What color ribbon? Do you have an inspiration picture?
    It's great she asked you to pick your own little black dress, clearly one you would wear again. Nicer that way than most BM dresses.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    It looks TOO good? WTF? So people are supposed to look frumpy or in ill-fitting clothes so as to not "outshine" the bride? That takes the cake.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • WhatawagSBNyWhatawagSBNy member
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    Bridesmaids should look great.

    But lots of times I look at a a classy dress and think not a bridesmaids' dress at all, you could wear that dress.
    And I'M really thinking of pics of friends or me in something suitable for a prom at 16, worn by five women 20 to 35. The dreaded BM dress. Pretty, but... Kinds of dresses.
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  • mlg78mlg78 member
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    You look great and you got a fantastic dress that you'll wear time and time again when you glam it up with fun accessories.
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  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    The dress looks great. I have no idea what "too good" means. Does that friend expect you to come in a black potato sack? It's not like you're dressed for a nightclub.
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  • ElcaBElcaB member
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    The dress looks great, and very appropriate. 
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    First of all, you look great in it. Even if you found something different, I would still keep the dress if you can afford to because it'a a great LBD. If you like yourself in the dress and the bride likes the dress, then relax and know that you're going to look great on her wedding day (unlike the poor BM in the progresso soup commercial...I love my sister...lol).

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  • jenna8984jenna8984 member
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    I think it's perfect. My bridesmaids had basically the exact same dress but in Navy. 

                                                                     

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  • hyechica81hyechica81 member
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    nice dress but i am not sure the ribbon would look good with the dress it might make the dress look not so good



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  • happybridetobe1987happybridetobe1987 member
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    that dress is totally stunning! you should wear it and feel like a gorgeous woman regardless of what the other bm says. brides should want their bms to feel comfortable and look fantastic. wear the heck outta that dress!

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