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Maybe I'm overreacting. Long. Wwwwd?

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Saturday DS and I went to the Children's Museum. He's been before and had fun. There are always a ton of children and its busy and noisy. This has never really bothered him before- although he doesn't really care for crowds.

I've been noticing that when we get into noisy, crowded places he gets more anxious. This trip was bad. He freaked out a couple of times and refused to eat because it was too noisy. He was okay just watching people or in the room where you can color. Not much else. Most of the time he wants to run but during the trip he wanted me to carry him.

In general noise seems to bother him, and makes him anxious. Another example- I am to the point where I can't take him grocery store because the carts are noisy and he spends the entire time trying to escape it and run away.

I know I'm on guard because I have my own set of sensory issues. Tell me if I'm being crazy and should relax. Or tell me I'm not crazy and I should do something.
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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    Is he old enough to "do something" whatever it might be?  

    I don't see anything wrong with mentioning it to your doctor and see what s/he has to say about it.  You know your history and you've complained a lot about your parents simply ignoring your issues.  I think there's a healthy way to find out if you need to worry about DS or wait awhile.

    My first thought was that he's just really shy in your first scenario, but the 2nd one would concern me too.
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  • PMeg819PMeg819 member
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    He's definitely shy. That's we know and we never force him to be social if he doesn't want to. DH is an introvert and they have similar personalities. When he's getting anxious I just try to talk to him and tell him that I'm here and he needs to tell me what's wrong. Sometimes he's so nondescript- like he'll say "it hurts" but won't say where or what.
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  • AuntFloAuntFlo member
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    A lot of it may be the age, and a lot of it may be his personality.  I wouldn't sweat it right now.   Give it a year and see if there are changes.
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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    I would mention it to the pedi. It sounds to me - and obviously I am no expert - like there's probably something there, and I would hop on it before it becomes overwhelming for any of you. 

    Out of curiosity, is there anything that can really be "done" about sensory issues? Or is it just teaching him coping mechanisms? 
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  • WzzWzz member
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    I don't think you're overreacting, but I do think you should relax. don't these kids go through developmental milestones that casue these sorts of things to happen? i would give it time and just mention it at the next wellness visit if things don't change or if they get worse. if it stays the same, maybe it's just a personality thing.
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  • HeffalumpHeffalump member
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    I have to agree with Zilla here.  Has it crossed the line where it's difficult for him to function out in the world, or is it more of just a quirk?  If it's the latter, I vote for keeping an eye on it for now.

    FWIW, DD is sensitive to all kinds of stimuli and can be overstimulated easily--I thought of that when you mentioned wanting to be carried, because that's always one of the first signs that she's overwhelmed.  If that's the case, definitely give it some time and see how he adjusts.  We were at a birthday party this weekend, and when all the kids were in a big circle and the party guy was leading them in a cheer, she was the lone kid out of 20 sitting there with her hands over her ears and an aggrieved expression on her face.  But as soon as that stopped and the kids were free to run and play, she was right in the mix.  And I actually commented to DH how a year ago at a very similar party, she was freaking out and clinging to me like a baby monkey.  So all this is to say, he may learn coping skills on his own over time, and it may become less and less of an issue. 

    That said, I trust maternal instinct more than anything, so if you think it's actually a problem, then it's probably a problem.
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  • dharmabunnydharmabunny member
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    In Response to Re:Maybe I'm overreacting. Long. Wwwwd?:[QUOTE]My first thought was that he's just really shy in your first scenario, but the 2nd one would concern me too. Posted by VarunaTT[/QUOTE]

    This. It would at least be worth a quick call to the doc for a casual "what do you think" before booking any appts. The first scenario wouldn't bother me that badly, because children's museums can be awfully intense and it may have just been an I can't deal with this crap day. And being introverted, it gets me edgy. But the second one just doesn't quite sit so right. Could be just a phase, could be other issues.
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  • warpedredpenguinwarpedredpenguin
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    My little brother has Asperger's, and when he was younger, loud noises freaked him out and being overstimulated made him panic. We got some noise cancelling headphones when we went places that would be noisy. It seemed to help. I'd mention it to the pediatrictian 
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  • MobKazMobKaz member
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    Is your son prone to ear infections?  Does he have a tendency to develop ear fluid?  Has he ever seen an ENT?  If a child has difficulty localizing or filtering sounds, it can become quite disorienting, which might result in feeling scared or frightened. Did his loss of appetite stem from the noise, or was he unable to eat because he was so distracted by an inability to process/make sense of the noises?  Is it possible the level of noise was causing pain for him?

    In the case of the grocery store, could the high frequency of the squeaky carts be causing inner ear pain?  You don't have to be sick or show signs of illness to have fluid build up in the ear.

    As a parent and teacher, I  always suggest trusting instincts.  I'd rather be wrong and suffer a little embarrassment at the doc's office, than not feel I did all I could. 







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  • jcg23jcg23 member
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    I agree with mobkaz and even so I mean I'm sure it isn't overreacting even if it weren't an issue. At least you made sure it wasn't. That is how I look at it atleast. But also don't traumatize him by dragging him to tons of doctors and I am not saying you will, unless there is some serious concern for his life, but I am speaking from personal experience. I had to go to several different doctors when I was a young child and it was rather difficult, I was being asked personal questions and ended up crying. I understand steps must be taken by all means do what you feel is best but also take that into consideration. As I said not saying you are going to do that at least not without reason, but just something for everyone with kids and future parents to consider.
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    How long until his next doc visit?  If he's going in for a well child soon I'd bring it up then.  If not, give the doc a call and see what they say.
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