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Special Mom

What is a special role I could give my mom during the wedding?  She's a minister, but we are having another minister who we've seen monthly for couple's counseling marry us.  

Re: Special Mom

  • Jen4948Jen4948 Houston member
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    Why does she need anything other than Mother of the Bride?
    Blue_Bird
  • I don't want her to feel bad or people wonder why we didnt use my mother. She did my best friend's wedding.  But we feel that this minister has been helpful to our relationship. And she hasn't had the best luck with marriage. She's been divorced three times.  And our relationship isn't perfect.  
  • Good to know. Thank you!
  • levioosalevioosa Southern California member
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    Ditto lilacck28.  I've been to many weddings where either the B or G has a parent who is a minister.  About half of them use their parent to officiate, and half don't.  I never side eye when the parent attends as a guest only.  It makes sense that they might just want to enjoy the ceremony. 


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  • lilacck28 said:
    If I went to the wedding of someone whose parent was a minister, and that parent was not marrying their child, my first thought would be: "h/she (the minister) probably wants to enjoy a wedding instead of work at it." Basically, it would make total sense to me that a parent isn't doing that, and that the parent gets to sit back and enjoy watching his/ her child get married. I don't think you need to worry about other people wondering why she isn't marrying you. 
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  • I agree, let her enjoy the ceremony and watch her special child get married. Not officiating, she can cry with happy tears if she wants, with no one watching her. Take the day off work, be a mother.
    Blue_Bird
  • MairePoppyMairePoppy Connecticut mod
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    She could walk you down the aisle, say grace before dinner at the reception.
                       
  • MollyandDMollyandD member
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    edited February 2015
    dvdplayer said:
    I don't want her to feel bad or people wonder why we didnt use my mother. She did my best friend's wedding.  But we feel that this minister has been helpful to our relationship. And she hasn't had the best luck with marriage. She's been divorced three times.  And our relationship isn't perfect.  
    You shouldn't worry about not including your mom in the ceremony. You should feel bad about using her divorces as a reason to not use her. 

    My mom has been married and divorced more times than your mother has, and I have NEVER once thought about it in terms of my wedding or her presence there. She did the typical mother of the bride thing, and was escorted in. She also sat in the front row. 

    When the ceremony was over, I stopped by her before walking out to kiss her cheek. Both photographers got a picture from each side (that was just great luck that they happened to be positioned that way), and she has the pictures framed on her desk at work. It wasn't part of the ceremony and only a few people noticed it, but that was her favorite moment. 
    lilacck28weddingcactus
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