I may or may not be...a Snarky Bride. Either way, I'm a little concerned. Aside from a little snare with my mom being difficult a few months back, my wedding planning has been pretty nice. I've put my deposit on my venue and have been asking a few questions here and there with my day of planner via email. My fiance is in the hospitality business and actually knows the owner from a previous encounter at his work though he has only talked to the day of planner once or twice. I had scheduled a visit a few weeks ago to introduce my DJ and see if he (my DJ) would be able to make things work. (Cocktail hour is outside with no speakers, dinner is in the next room to the dance hall and again, no speakers, and my ceremony is on site but a minute drive up a hill.)
I confirmed with my day of planner that I would be there at the scheduled time (this was done via phone the day before the meeting) and she happily told me she would be waiting for me and that I could take all the time I want since I was her only appointment. I show up on time with my DJ in tow and she asked me to sign in if I'm a guest looking to book a suite or sign in for the tour and put a desired date down if I'm here for a wedding. I thought i was odd since I've met with her twice in person and spent a very lengthy time with her when we placed our despite (talking about her daughter and their life, which was an amazing story!). She leaves for a while and then comes back to ask if I was interested in seeing their different ceremony sites, ect. I kindly reminded her about our appointment, supplied my name, reintroduced FI, and introduced my DJ. She stared at me for a full minute while trying to process who I was before it dawned on her. Several times during the visit I had to remind her my date, resupply my name, remind her which site I picked and my concerns about it given the size with the DJ equipment.
We waited for a good thirty minutes before she was able to get everything ready to show us and then seemed flabbergasted that I wanted to show them the ceremony site which is the main reason we went up there to begin with. My first trip up to the ceremony site, I hadn't looked where the dJ sat and its a small chapel. The previous wedding pictures at this location didn't show a DJ in the pictures (which is always great but left me curious if I would be having one or using an ipod for sound). Turns out there is no spot for a DJ so he'll just be sitting in the back with small speakers and a laptop. A man took us to the chapel, we got it figured out, drove back to the reception site and I was yet again asked my name and my wedding date and what I was there for. She remembered my DJ's name, which she met for the first time, and my fiance's name but not mine.
I'm a little upset and hurt that I have had the most contact with the day of planner and she doesn't remember at all. The only reason she remembers my fiance is because his name is unusual and he works with hospitality...even so, she only saw him once without me in tow at his work. I'm concerned because despite all the contact that I have with her, she doesn't remember a single thing about the wedding even though I was her only appointment that day. What if she misplaced the deposit which was a certified check? Or what if she didn't actually reserve my correct wedding date and gives it to someone else. I'm pretty sure I'm over thinking things but this woman's memory about me makes me nervous. If she can't even remember an appointment that was confirmed the day before, what else is she not remembering? Is this normal with venue planners to forget their clients? I guess my anxiety doesn't help with matters here.
EDIT
Another reason I wanted to go up was to take pictures so that way I could decorate. I'm glad I did because the aisle decor will have to be changed since the aisle isn't very wide. Its a big DIY wedding so I'm glad I didn't make a bunch of large paper flowers and then not use them.