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• 0Face member

  

  January 2015

  UM.  CUT THE TIES.
  

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• loveshine1 member

  

  January 2015

  Yeah I would end that relationship. It sucks, they were together a long time, but it's not a good idea to stay in touch with your daughter's ex.
  
  H's parents stayed friends with his HS gf's parents after they broke up. Their friendship basically ended after they weren't invited to our wedding.
  

  

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• hmonkey member

  

  January 2015

  amy says it's okay. WTF. 

  
  

  i get it if he doesn't have a father figure, but both parents is weird.

  
  

  
  

  dear saddened: It is not a mistake to get attached to your kids’ partners. Certainly when they are teenagers, your attachment is a genuinely positive thing.

  It’s also OK to continue a friendship post-breakup, as long as you realize that this is one relationship where the other parties’ interests must come before your own emotional needs or desires. Your daughter does not have the right to pick your friends, but if this quasi-familial attachment to her ex continues, it could impede other relationships she might have.

  You should convey to her: “We know you made the right decision, but we miss Bradley. We’d like to keep in touch with him and want to make sure this won’t make you uncomfortable.”

  Keep your contact with him casual, positive and friendly. My own relationship with ex-in-laws has been rich, deep, supportive and very rewarding over the years. If you’re lucky, this relationship will survive this tender time of adjustment and settle into something good for everyone.

  

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• VarunaTT member

  

  January 2015

  No way.  

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• 6fsn member

  

  January 2015

  They need to cut ties. It sucks, but especially for the time being it needs to end.

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• MesmrEwe member

  

  January 2015 edited January 2015

  They're all adults, a lot can depend on the dynamic of the community.  Heck, my brother was a groomsman in a girl he dated for a long time's wedding and he is good friends with the groom!  They can still choose the relationship they want to have, they're adults, that's what adults do.  It's not like they're trying to force the kids back together when they know darn well they weren't meant to be.  As long as they set the boundary that they're accepting of that and don't ever make the snide remark that the two should be back together, same for the ex BF that's all that matters.

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• mrsconn23 member

  

  January 2015

  I honestly think it depends on how the daughter feels about it.  If she's OK with having the ex around and they're friendly, then I don't see an issue. 

  
  

  I just get this squicky feeling that they're writing to Abby because they know *she* won't be OK with it and want permission to still see him, with or without her knowledge. 

  
  

  ALSO, if he was devastated upon the break-up...it may be a form of stringing him along.  

  
  

  So, from the short blurb in the letter, it's hard to tell.  I'm leaning toward "hell no". 

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• pegasuskat member

  

  January 2015

  I kind of lived this and it was very hard.  Youngest DD was with her BF all through his HS and the first 2 years of him being in the Navy.  He wanted to be married and she wanted college, so she did what she had to for her, but I did miss him and worry about him.  He was deployed and I felt so bad for him, but I had to really be careful how I answered his emails.  Two years later he would still try and get me to intervene but I didn't, it made her mad for him to do that and I had to be firm.  He finally has a new GF and I really pray he has moved on.  He deleted us all from FB so maybe he's ok now, lol.  You know FB measures everything!

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• GBCK member

  

  January 2015

  I wish I could still be friends w/ ex-ass-ferret's mom.  I liked her.
  But, you know, telling him I'd get a restraining order if he kept trying to break me up w/ the Mr. and threatening us/him with bodily harm makes it hard to do that.

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• MissKittyDanger member

  

  February 2015

  When I broke up with an ex, I knew my parents would actually see him often because he lives near them {and myself at the time}

  
  

  It didn't bother me much that they would be polite and say hi, but I asked them to actually stop speaking to him otherwise because he would refuse to speak to me. They understood.

  
  

  Ultimately I think it should be up to your daughter. 

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• MissKittyDanger member

  

  February 2015

  GBCK said:

  I wish I could still be friends w/ ex-ass-ferret's mom.  I liked her.
  But, you know, telling him I'd get a restraining order if he kept trying to break me up w/ the Mr. and threatening us/him with bodily harm makes it hard to do that.

  I love your wording :')

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• auntflo2point0 member

  

  February 2015

  Zombie post!

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• Heffalump member

  

  February 2015

  auntflo2point0 said:

  Zombie post!

  I hate this, b/c I was all "Oooh, another one of Hmo's wwyd posts!" and rubbing my hands together in anticipation, and then...zombie. 
  

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  February 2015

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