Who to list on invitations

Re: Who to list on invitations

• mikenberger member

  

  February 2015 edited February 2015

  cnblake said:

  Hello,

  
  

  I need to know the proper etiquette for listing our parents on our wedding invitations. My parents are paying for entire reception and ceremony costs. His parents are paying for rehearsal dinner. Am I correct that we list both sets of parents on the invitations?

  
  

  Thanks

  You put who is hosting your event on the invites. Hosting is not equal to paying. Hosting: People that are going to answer questions, take RSVPs etc. But there are plenty of threads on here if you just click around for wording. I'm pretty sure there may be a sticky on it as well (thread pinned to the "top" of the board) 

  
  

  ETA: 'Here' being the invite board on TK

  
  

  
  

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• cnblake member

  

  February 2015

  Thanks so much. I didn't realize that. 

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• blabla89 member

  

  February 2015

  Generally the wedding and RD would be two separate invitations. You'd list your parents as the hosts on the wedding invitation and your ILs as the hosts on the RD invitation.
  

  

  
  
  

  
  

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• southernbelle0915 mod

  

  February 2015

  If your parents are hosting, in addition to paying, they would be listed on the first line of the invitation (e.g. Mr. and Mrs. Smith invite you to.....).

  
  

  If his parents aren't hosting your wedding or paying, their names would not go on it at all. You could list them on the RD invites as hosts. DH's parents hosted our RD and wanted to be listed as such. At the bottom of the invite we wrote "Hosted by John and Jane Doe"

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• lilacck28 member

  

  February 2015 edited February 2015

  just gonna pipe in and say... different cultures handle this differently. Do what makes most sense to you. I don't think it's wrong to adopt pracitices from other cultures if it makes sense to you, either.
  
  See: http://blog.crane.com/2012/02/09/invitation-etiquette-religious-cultural-customs/
  
  Jewish families often list both sets of parents. Catholics mention the mass (if they're having one.) "you are invited to the marriage of Lilacck AND lilacck's fiance" has slightly different implications than "you are invited to the marriage of Lilacck TO lilacck's fiance." Etc.
  
  
  

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• CMGragain member

  

  February 2015

  You should not "list" anyone on your invitation.  The invitation is a note from the hosts to the guests, telling them who, what, when and where.  It is not a family tree.  It is not an honor to be on the invitation. 
  It sounds like your parents are hosting your wedding.  Their names should be on top, since they are the hosts.  Your FI's parents are hosting the rehearsal dinner.  Their names would be on top of the rehearsal dinner invitation, if there is one.
  I suggest that you post your invitation text over on the invitations board for revieew before ordering any invitations.
  

  

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