BM shoe color

Knottie65544907 · February 2015

Hello! I need some help deciding on shoes/accessories for my girls. Colors are honeysuckle, yellow, and white. Their dresses will be honeysuckle so what color of shoes and necklaces would look good? Thank you so much!

flantastic · February 2015

Knottie65544907 said:

Hello! I need some help deciding on shoes/accessories for my girls. Colors are honeysuckle, yellow, and white. Their dresses will be honeysuckle so what color of shoes and necklaces would look good? Thank you so much!

My advice on this would be not to worry about it. Your girls' responsibility to buy attire for your wedding only extends to the dress, so if you are going to require shoes in a specific color (unless it's something like black that everyone already owns) or specific jewelry (even color of jewelry - I own pretty much no silver jewelry and I'm not buying any for your wedding), you need to pay for it.

I'm pretty confident that they can each make their own fashion choices which will not clash with the dress. The "clone" bridesmaid look kind of went out a while ago, so I wouldn't worry about whether they match. They'll coordinate.

aurianna · February 2015

I think white shoes would look good with honeysuckle and yellow.
Assuming your wedding isn't in the winter when white shoes would be harder to find, I'd go with that. I say just let them pick out whatever white shoes they want. Then you won't have to pay for any specific shoes in an uncommon color so bonus.

I think most jewelry would look good with honeysuckle. I say let them pick that on their own too. One less thing thing you have to buy!

ETA: Black could also look pretty good with honeysuckle and yellow.

novella1186 · February 2015

Let them pick their own. Micromanaging them will make things more stressful for you, and more difficult for them.

I was in a wedding where all the BMs wore the same dress, but then we were told to pick any shoes we want in a copper color. It was fun to see what each BM picked, because we all found great shoes, and we all coordinated. But I think it would look great even if the shoes were not all the same color. To me, it's weird when BMs are wearing all identical accessories and everything; it looks like they're wearing a uniform, and they're not themselves.

Seriously, don't worry about this. You have a lot more decisions to make, and the BMs shoes and jewelry should not be on that long list!

ETA: if you're just looking for color ideas to tell them to go pick their own in a certain color, I think gold, white, nude, black, silver, or even baby blue or gray would look pretty with yellow.

And also ETA: if honeysuckle is that hot pink color I posted below, then you could also have them wear yellow shoes. But I think the more freedom to let them pick whatever they want, the better, because they'll be more comfortable and it will show on their faces in pictures that they feel good in what they're wearing.

artbyallie · February 2015

I want to know wtf color 'honeysuckle' is supposed to be. It's not a color to me, it's a flower. That I most often see in white, though it does come in varying shades of yellow, orange, and pink.

IMO I would not even tell them what color shoes to wear. I told my bridesmaids black and it really didn't matter so if I could go back and do it differently I wouldn't have even specified.

novella1186 · February 2015

artbyallie said:

I want to know wtf color 'honeysuckle' is supposed to be. It's not a color to me, it's a flower. That I most often see in white, though it does come in varying shades of yellow, orange, and pink.

IMO I would not even tell them what color shoes to wear. I told my bridesmaids black and it really didn't matter so if I could go back and do it differently I wouldn't have even specified.

I just had to google it lol. Apparently it's this?

ohannabelle · February 2015

I always think yellow/white when I think of honeysuckle, because that's the most common variety. Pink would never have crossed my mind.

OP, if you're choosing specific shoes and accessories, I think that could be seen as micromanaging the ladies. I'd give general guidelines and let them choose their own.

southernbelle0915 · February 2015

I would just tell them "any nude shoe". That way they can either wear something they already have or buy something in their budget.

Really, shoe color for BMs doesn't matter. Quick, what was the shoe color and style of the BMs at the last wedding you attended? Do you remember if they matched? I know I can't answer those questions and I just went to a wedding in December. It really doesn't matter. Same with jewelry/other accessories.

If you do require something specific outside the dress (col sounds lovely btw!), you should provide it.

[Deleted User] · February 2015

If it's a spring/summer wedding, which I'm guessing it based on the color that came up when I did a google search on the color, I would say give them the option of white, silver or nude. Bascially to make your life easier you can survey ask your girls what color shoes do they have that would go with the dress. If they all already own white shoes, then great, they can all wear white. If they all have silver, then make it silver. If any of them or in the position where they need to buy shoes, then ask them as a group, if you have to buy a pair of shoes, what color would you be most likely to buy. I get it that as brides we shouldn't control things like shoes if we aren't going to pay for it. But I also get as a bride, if the shoes are going to be showing, you don't necessarily want to see one of your BM show up in a pair of leopard print shoes or neon pink either. Include your BM in the decision and discuss options and see where there thoughts are. If you can get everyone on board with the same color family, then let them wear whatever style/heel they are comfortable in. Because comfortable BM = happy BM & happy BM show their happiness in the photos.

As for jewelry, you can let the color of the shoes impact them. You can't go wrong with the white evening wear stuff (faux diamonds), silver, white or a bolder piece if the style goes with the dress.

mikenberger · February 2015

I would go with any neutral color for shoes, then they can wear something they've already got in their wardrobe. Same with jewelry. Asking them all to wear a certain shoe (like picking it out) or a certain jewelry is a bit over the top. And if you're going to require a certain shoe or jewelry, you should purchase them.

lovegood90 · February 2015

Yep, anything above and beyond asking them to buy a dress (which you should be getting their budgets for privately beforehand) that you are requiring, you need to be prepared to pay for. This includes if you are requiring professional hair and makeup. It's easiest to let everyone wear whatever shoes and jewelry they want. It doesn't matter what they're wearing, I promise.

PrettyGirlLost · February 2015

Knottie65544907 said:

Hello! I need some help deciding on shoes/accessories for my girls. Colors are honeysuckle, yellow, and white. Their dresses will be honeysuckle so what color of shoes and necklaces would look good? Thank you so much!

I would just tell your BMs to wear any shoe in nude or gold. Let them choose their own jewelry and hair accessories.

PrettyGirlLost · February 2015

novella1186 said:

artbyallie said:

I want to know wtf color 'honeysuckle' is supposed to be. It's not a color to me, it's a flower. That I most often see in white, though it does come in varying shades of yellow, orange, and pink.

IMO I would not even tell them what color shoes to wear. I told my bridesmaids black and it really didn't matter so if I could go back and do it differently I wouldn't have even specified.

I just had to google it lol. Apparently it's this?

That makes no sense to me!

Honeysuckle is yellow to me ><

flantastic · February 2015

Erikan73 said:

If it's a spring/summer wedding, which I'm guessing it based on the color that came up when I did a google search on the color, I would say give them the option of white, silver or nude. Bascially to make your life easier you can survey ask your girls what color shoes do they have that would go with the dress. If they all already own white shoes, then great, they can all wear white. If they all have silver, then make it silver. If any of them or in the position where they need to buy shoes, then ask them as a group, if you have to buy a pair of shoes, what color would you be most likely to buy. I get it that as brides we shouldn't control things like shoes if we aren't going to pay for it. But I also get as a bride, if the shoes are going to be showing, you don't necessarily want to see one of your BM show up in a pair of leopard print shoes or neon pink either. Include your BM in the decision and discuss options and see where there thoughts are. If you can get everyone on board with the same color family, then let them wear whatever style/heel they are comfortable in. Because comfortable BM = happy BM & happy BM show their happiness in the photos.
As for jewelry, you can let the color of the shoes impact them. You can't go wrong with the white evening wear stuff (faux diamonds), silver, white or a bolder piece if the style goes with the dress.

I understand that some people worry about the bolded, which baffles me. What on earth that matters will be affected by this happening?

Your advice overall is good, though, Erikan.

slothiegal · February 2015

I sat here for 10 minutes trying to remember what kind of shoes my BMs wore. Guess what? I have no freakin' idea.

File this one under: "things not to waste time worrying about".

artbyallie · February 2015

I now have a craving for honeysuckle nectar. We used to eat it when I was a kid. You pull off the flower, pinch the bottom end, and pull out the middle to eat the drop of nectar on the end. And the flowers were always white and/or yellow, of course.

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AddieCake · February 2015

I would tell them beige, nude, or gold shoes with that color dress. Nobody cares what their jewelry looks like. You shouldn't, either.

Bubblegum5586 · February 2015

I think nude or white if the dress is short. If you don't already own nude shoes getting a pair would be great for future outfits as well! If the dress is long then I think it matters a lot less.

brittanykaylachandler · February 2015

I think nude or white would look great!

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