Forgot to send a friend a Save the Date.

Re: Forgot to send a friend a Save the Date.

• bethsmiles member

  

  February 2015

  I'd just say it got lost in the mail and you want to double check her address. I know it's a lie but you meant to send her one and saying that you forgot about her isn't going to make her feel better.

  
  

  
  

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• lilacck28 member

  

  February 2015 edited February 2015

  I got the wrong address for some family members (THANKS MOM) so they didn't get STDs when they were supposed to. My parents were apparently talking about the wedding in front of them, and they were like "uhh... when's the wedding....?" Palm. Face.
  
  Just say, "oh no! it must have gotten lost in the mail or I used the wrong address! "
  

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• suteki325 member

  

  February 2015

  See, I'm just worried using the "lost in the mail/wrong address" will look sketchy because I never actually asked her for her address in the first place - I forgot to. So she'll be like "Uh, how was it the wrong address when you never asked in the first place?"
  
  I'll be sending out invites here soon (in a month or so), so I was thinking of texting her tonight along the lines of, "I just realized I never got your address for your save the date! I'm so sorry! I'll be sending out invitations soon though, so what's your address for the invite?"
  
  How would that sound?
  

  
  

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• lilacck28 member

  

  February 2015 edited February 2015

  That's not horrible but... yeah. It's going to suck to realize you forgot about her.
  
  I feel bad that I'm encouraging lying but... can't you just say you asked another friend for the address? Or thought you remembered it?
  
  If not that, at least add... "ugh I was so busy when I was doing STDs and I messed up a bunch and missed a ton people I meant to send them too." so it's not just HER you forgot. It's not fun to feel like a forgettable friend.
  

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• bananasplit472001 member

  

  February 2015

  I had a few STD's come back to us so It is a perfectly reasonable response to say it got lost in the mail.  Also my FI couldn't decide on all of the friends to invite when the STD"s went out so some that are invited to the wedding did not get a STD but will get a wedding invite

  

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• lovegood90 member

  

  February 2015

  suteki325 said:

  See, I'm just worried using the "lost in the mail/wrong address" will look sketchy because I never actually asked her for her address in the first place - I forgot to. So she'll be like "Uh, how was it the wrong address when you never asked in the first place?"
  
  I'll be sending out invites here soon (in a month or so), so I was thinking of texting her tonight along the lines of, "I just realized I never got your address for your save the date! I'm so sorry! I'll be sending out invitations soon though, so what's your address for the invite?"
  
  How would that sound?
  

  I think that sounds fine. Mistakes happen, and if you guys are friends she'll hopefully understand and let it go.
  

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• MandyMost member

  

  February 2015

  We actually did forget to send someone an invite. I had the list in Excel, and I swear I checked it like a thousand times, but somehow my now-husband's old roommates got dropped off the list. They hadn't moved since he lived there so obviously he knew the address, and they only lived a few blocks away! We didn't realize until we were counting up the responses and seeing who we had to call to remind/follow-up for the response. I think we may have said it got lost in the mail, but hey they're friends. They understand mistakes happen, didn't take it personally, and we sent them an invite ASAP and they returned the response card immediately, even though they had already responded verbally. 
  

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• rcher912 member

  

  February 2015

  I'm pretty used to going "OMG I am the literal worst. That was an oversight on my part and I'm so sorry. And now that I've realized that, I realize I don't have your address!! How that happened, I also have no idea. My bad. What is it again? Thanks for understanding!"

  
  

  The truth of the situation doesn't sound all that bad to me. Just lay it all out there. We've all had things slip our minds - especially when they include addresses!

  
  

  (Note: I just found a STD on my dining room table this morning that should have gone out last week. It's still within reasonable time, so I don't think they'll realize, but even if they did - again, a simple oversight.)

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• knottie9c5ed33df4bbd226 member

  

  February 2015

  suteki325 said:

  Hello all,
  
  Long story short, I went to college with a group of five girls that I've stayed in touch with over the years since. I sent them all save the dates for my wedding around a month ago. Today I met up with one of the girls for coffee, and she mentioned off-hand that one of the girls hadn't received one - my friend had mentioned it to her, and the girl was like "What? I didn't get one."
  
  So I feel terrible because I had meant to send her one, but never got around to texting her for her address before I sent them out, and it completely slipped my mind. Of course I would still love for her to come to my wedding, but I'm worried now that if I text her for her address, or mention that I WILL be inviting her, she'll feel like it's just a pity invite or something.
  
  What's the best way to word this to her without it coming off like a pity invite?? Thanks for any replies!
  

  I had the STD for one of my college friends come back to me in the mail about 2 weeks after I sent them out. I just texted her and explained I wrote the wrong address and she was of course fine. I know in your case it might be a lie (well, it is a lie) but I would just say that.
  

  
  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  February 2015

  bethsmiles said:

  I'd just say it got lost in the mail and you want to double check her address. I know it's a lie but you meant to send her one and saying that you forgot about her isn't going to make her feel better.

  
  I think this is a perfect cover. You can say you heard that you didn't get your save the date and concerned it got lost in the mail, can you verify your address for me? and if she asks what you have, just say I'm not sure, I don't have my wedding list with me at the moment.

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