Cant find a Venue!

Re: Cant find a Venue!

• aurianna member

  

  February 2015 edited February 2015

  I would try your local board. They may have more options.
  
  Also, are you and most of your guest from this area or are some from elsewhere? (like maybe you and groom live one place but all of groom's family lives somewhere else). You could have the wedding there instead if they have more options (no rule that you MUST get married in your hometown).
  
  The other option if you truly can't find anything local is a pure destination wedding, but expect a lower attendance and check with your VIPs what's plausible for them.
  
  
  Good luck!
  

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• climbingsingle member

  

  February 2015

  Definitely try your local board. Have you considered maybe a town or two over? Our venue was an hour away from our house. 

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• ElcaB member

  

  February 2015

  mamaprecious said:

  I'm so stressed already and I have not even started planning my wedding yet. I'm trying to look for a reception venue and there isn't much options where i live. I find that most of the venues has that vintage rustic look, a barnery seen, or not much to it at all. I pretty much looked everywhere and nothing interest me. What makes the matter worse is i am on a budget so my options are limited. I thought I have found a Golf venue but we got the opportunity to try the food before putting in a deposit and the food was horrible. The food was simple. Roast beef and chicken dinner. How can a "chef" mess that up. It was the worst food i have ever tasted. No exaggeration.I don't even want to ask him to make something else because if the food is so simple and taste bad than there's nothing else he can probably cook.  Now i feel like i have to try the food at every reception hall i visit before i put a deposit in because i am scared the food isn't going to be up to my standards. There is another hall that is nice but its only one big square room and no where to have cocktail hour. I have a couple more appointments with other reception halls in the next couple of weeks but any other place i have looked at is out of my budget. Destination weddings are out of the question. I know no one can solve my problems and i probably sound picky too but I just needed to vent on here. I don't have friends that have been married so there no one i can even really talk to about weddings.

  
  

  Thanks for reading!

  Finding a venue can be tough! It was the first step of planning for us (and also the most frustrating), so I understand how you're feeling. 

  
  

  This hall with the large room sounds like it might fit the bill. We held our cocktail hour in the same room as our venue and it turned out fine. While it'd have been great to do it in a separate space (I liked the idea of it being a progression from ceremony to cocktail hour to reception) it still turned out beautifully. I wouldn't write this venue off just because you'd have to have cocktail hour in the same space. 

  
  

  If you haven't already, try looking at some non-traditional venues like senior centers, park shelters, and union halls. Some of them offer great prices & have spaces that would work perfectly. 

  

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• thisismynickname2 member

  

  February 2015

  ElcaB said:

  mamaprecious said:

  I'm so stressed already and I have not even started planning my wedding yet. I'm trying to look for a reception venue and there isn't much options where i live. I find that most of the venues has that vintage rustic look, a barnery seen, or not much to it at all. I pretty much looked everywhere and nothing interest me. What makes the matter worse is i am on a budget so my options are limited. I thought I have found a Golf venue but we got the opportunity to try the food before putting in a deposit and the food was horrible. The food was simple. Roast beef and chicken dinner. How can a "chef" mess that up. It was the worst food i have ever tasted. No exaggeration.I don't even want to ask him to make something else because if the food is so simple and taste bad than there's nothing else he can probably cook.  Now i feel like i have to try the food at every reception hall i visit before i put a deposit in because i am scared the food isn't going to be up to my standards. There is another hall that is nice but its only one big square room and no where to have cocktail hour. I have a couple more appointments with other reception halls in the next couple of weeks but any other place i have looked at is out of my budget. Destination weddings are out of the question. I know no one can solve my problems and i probably sound picky too but I just needed to vent on here. I don't have friends that have been married so there no one i can even really talk to about weddings.

  
  

  Thanks for reading!

  Finding a venue can be tough! It was the first step of planning for us (and also the most frustrating), so I understand how you're feeling. 

  
  

  This hall with the large room sounds like it might fit the bill. We held our cocktail hour in the same room as our venue and it turned out fine. While it'd have been great to do it in a separate space (I liked the idea of it being a progression from ceremony to cocktail hour to reception) it still turned out beautifully. I wouldn't write this venue off just because you'd have to have cocktail hour in the same space. 

  
  

  If you haven't already, try looking at some non-traditional venues like senior centers, park shelters, and union halls. Some of them offer great prices & have spaces that would work perfectly. 

  Ditto all the advice so far but definitely the bolded. We had ceremony, cocktail hour, and reception all in one large space. The large space had different "areas" for these phases. 

  Oftentimes the complaint about cocktail hour is being too many people in a small space without enough seating. When you have all one room, people can walk around and mingle or sit at their (assigned) table.  Honestly, it works out well. 

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• pegasuskat member

  

  February 2015

  Is it possible to use the venue without using their caterer?

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• peachy13 member

  

  February 2015

  When are you looking to get married? If you're thinking this fall (2015) you are not going to have many options. Even next spring (2016) might be tight. Things book up fast. I got engaged in Oct 2013 and my FI and I were fully on board with having a two year engagement. Now that our date is approaching (Oct 2015) I have everything booked and am now hearing from other brides about how tough it is to find venues and vendors for this upcoming fall. So, totally up to you, but I strongly recommend waiting a little while to get married. Trust me, it's so much less stress and it goes by so fast anyway. Good luck!

  
  
  
  

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• levioosa member

  

  February 2015

  pegasuskat said:

  Is it possible to use the venue without using their caterer?

  Depends on the venue.  Some venues have a policy that stipulates in the contract that only their "approved vendors" can cater, etc.  Other venues are a little more flexible.  Then there are venues that even allow you to bring your own alcohol.  You just have to look around and look closely at the contract/rules.
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• MandyMost member

  

  February 2015

  Lots of options already mentioned! You can also reconsider your proposed guest list--for instance, the venue with one big room might not work for everything for 150 people, but could be perfect to have different areas for cocktails, etc. if you only invite 75 people. The more you reduce the guest list, the more options you have. Have you checked out restaurants with function rooms, if you're list is smaller? Or how about outdoors under a big tent somewhere? Something like that would involve a LOT more planning and vendors on your part, but could work out if you're willing to put in the effort. 

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• mamaprecious member

  

  February 2015

  Yes im still considering it, but i dont think i will be able to handle all the planning in a different area.

  
  

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• mamaprecious member

  

  February 2015

  There is very few venues in my area that allow that outside caterers. the ones that do allow are really out of shape or have that barn scenery

  
  

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• mamaprecious member

  

  February 2015

  My guest list is 90. I have looked into private restaurants and they take max 50 guest.

  
  

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• mamaprecious member

  

  February 2015

  I was worried the the hall was going to be a mess before i got there. I am having children at my wedding so i am afraid of that thaught

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• mamaprecious member

  

  February 2015

  yes i am afraid im going to walk in a big mess. Children are going to be there!

  
  

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• hyechica81 member

  

  February 2015

  can you call up some venues you love that are out of your price range and speak to them and see if they can work within your budget you would be suprised that certin dates or times for a wedding ceremony can be cheeper such as a thursday friday or sunday wedding, having a wedding in bridal off season. 

  
  

  
  

  it would not hurt to call a few places out of your price range and say hey i have looked at everything in my budget and i am not happy with what they have to offer this is what i can afford max for my 90 guest is there anyway you can work with me on this budget.

  
  

  when we went looking at venues one was way our of our price range we told the lady this is what our budget is for food and drink she said she could work with us if we had a off date wedding and not evening, we ended up finding a venue that we loved better than that and they had a better deal for a saturday evening venue

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