Bachelorette Q

Knottie1445136220 · February 2015

I'm having my bachelorette this May and am creating my guest list.

One of my closest female cousins just got married (she is lesbian) and I really don't like her wife. Do I have to invite her to the bachelorette since she's a female and I'm inviting her wife/my cousin? Or can I get away with 'significant others not allowed' rule?

flantastic · February 2015

nottienikki said:

I'm having my bachelorette this May and am creating my guest list.

One of my closest female cousins just got married (she is lesbian) and I really don't like her wife. Do I have to invite her to the bachelorette since she's a female and I'm inviting her wife/my cousin? Or can I get away with 'significant others not allowed' rule?

If she's not your friend, you don't have to invite her. This would only be rude if you were inviting literally every other woman on your guest list. There doesn't have to be a rule.

redoryx · February 2015

Just to be clear, you're not planning your own bachelorette party, right? You're just putting together the guest list to give to the person who is hosting/planning it.

JellyBean52513 · February 2015

nottienikki said:

I'm having my bachelorette this May and am creating my guest list.

One of my closest female cousins just got married (she is lesbian) and I really don't like her wife. Do I have to invite her to the bachelorette since she's a female and I'm inviting her wife/my cousin? Or can I get away with 'significant others not allowed' rule?

Treat your cousin and her wife as you would any other relationship.

artbyallie · February 2015

JellyBean52513 said:

nottienikki said:

I'm having my bachelorette this May and am creating my guest list.

One of my closest female cousins just got married (she is lesbian) and I really don't like her wife. Do I have to invite her to the bachelorette since she's a female and I'm inviting her wife/my cousin? Or can I get away with 'significant others not allowed' rule?

Treat your cousin and her wife as you would any other relationship.

In this case, as long as the wife is invited to the wedding, she need not be invited to the bachelorette. B-parties are generally the bride's closest friends, not including those friends' SOs.

climbingsingle · February 2015

You don't need to include the wife in the bach party.

Knottie1445136220 · February 2015

redoryx said:
Just to be clear, you're not planning your own bachelorette party, right? You're just putting together the guest list to give to the person who is hosting/planning it.

Correct, I'm sending a list to my BM but wasn't sure if I should invite cousin's wife. She's just really sensitive and her feelings will be hurt and it'll probably cause a lifetime of familial drama. Can you tell we're Italian? Lol.

VulgarGirl · February 2015

My wife and I have been invited to bach parties together and separately. If we're invited together it's because we're both friends with whomever the party is for. If it's separately it's because only one of us is friends with whomever the party is for. It's never been a big deal to us.

kaos16 · February 2015

The only thing I am thinking here is that if it will really cause such family drama, is it worth it? I certainly don't think you are obligated to invite her. . . . but it might just make things easier on you, and you don't really have to socialize with her directly, there will be a number of people there.