No wedding talk at work

morewineplease · February 2015

So there are a few people I work with that have been asking about the wedding since I get the ring. It is super hard to not take this bait as most of my friends that I want t share all this with are states away. I have been sharing with them online and in text, but I am trying not to over-share with them and without seeing their face it is hard to judge.

Well yesterday it became painful clear I cannot talk with the one girl in the office that has been asking me about thoughts and plans daily said something that made me realize this is a bad thing. Yesterday she told me she could not wait to go dress shopping with me! We have never hung out outside of the office other than walking to get coffee.

So I will share with you all instead. We have booked our venue!

novella1186 · February 2015

morewineplease said:

So there are a few people I work with that have been asking about the wedding since I get the ring. It is super hard to not take this bait as most of my friends that I want t share all this with are states away. I have been sharing with them online and in text, but I am trying not to over-share with them and without seeing their face it is hard to judge.

Well yesterday it became painful clear I cannot talk with the one girl in the office that has been asking me about thoughts and plans daily said something that made me realize this is a bad thing. Yesterday she told me she could not wait to go dress shopping with me! We have never hung out outside of the office other than walking to get coffee.

So I will share with you all instead. We have booked our venue!

Dude. Do you work in my office? Are you talking about Jessica? Watch out for the crazy/pushy work colleagues, seriously. It might only get worse from there.

And yes, share with us, not with crazy chick. Congrats on booking a venue!

AddieCake · February 2015

That is super fucking weird.

[Deleted User] · February 2015

Booking avenue is such an exciting thing to cross off your list. Congrats!!

Yeah, I feel you on this one. The best thing to do is offer them a thank you for their congratulatory wishes and not elaborate. While many, I am sure, may have good intentions in inquiring about the wedding, some of them may misinterpret your making conversation with them about the wedding as a false sense of closeness that comes with the expectation of an invite.

If they ask about wedding details, just say that you are still in the planning stages and beandip.

morewineplease · February 2015

At first I thought she was just excited because she is talking about marriage with her BF and was starting to "plan" in her head before he popped the question, but ya it just got weird.

As soon as she said that I was thinking bean dip time.

500days · February 2015

Coworkers ask me all of the time about wedding plans....definitely bean dip. It can get awkward, because I would love to invite many of my coworkers but it is not in the budget.

rcher912 · February 2015

People are so weird!

And I also want to point out that I believe @jenandtonic91515 has the perfect reaction to this in her sig, haha!

Also, @novella1186, if I could love your post a million times it wouldn't be enough!

So how about that bean dip?

JCbride2015 · February 2015

I just realized that my wedding collides with a HUGE deadline at work, like potentially the most important time in the case besides trial. I need to bring it up pretty soon and I'm basically dreading it.

My close girlfriends know about it but we mostly talk about my friend's impending birth (three weeks, I'm so excited). I feel like after J has her baby, my wedding will kind of be the next big event, so we'll talk about it more then. But so far it's not a major topic of conversation.

I knew I was doing it right when I called my assistant to book my honeymoon vacation and she didn't even know I was engaged.

KatieinBkln · February 2015

JCbride2015 said:

I just realized that my wedding collides with a HUGE deadline at work, like potentially the most important time in the case besides trial. I need to bring it up pretty soon and I'm basically dreading it.

My close girlfriends know about it but we mostly talk about my friend's impending birth (three weeks, I'm so excited). I feel like after J has her baby, my wedding will kind of be the next big event, so we'll talk about it more then. But so far it's not a major topic of conversation.

I knew I was doing it right when I called my assistant to book my honeymoon vacation and she didn't even know I was engaged.

My wedding is also during one of our busy times. Oops. In my defense I set the date before I even knew what this project was, let alone that it's a yearly thing. (I got engaged the day before I started this job. It was a big week).

I'm lucky that not too many people want to chit-chat about my wedding at work--I can share details with my actual friend-colleague so that is nice.

But I am still shocked at OP's coworker. I feel like people should be aware at work that "so where will your wedding be?" And such are just friendly small-talk, not Instant Bonding And Friendship Because Wedding!

theartistformerlyknownas · February 2015

So awkward. I had one male coworker constantly ask me about details like the venue, food, registry, etc, which I happily babbled away, until realizing "crap, I should probably invite him now." (This was really early in my TK days.) I had just started a new job the week before getting engaged, so I didn't know if I'd be inviting any coworkers or not, but after babbling my head off and then becoming relatively close with one other manager, I figured I should invite all the other managers on my level (4 plus their spouses) plus my 2 bosses. Turned out the original guy couldn't even come, and likely never even planned to come since it was his anniversary weekend and he was taking a trip. I think he was just legitimately interested since he had recently gotten married. Would have been easier to keep 12 people off my guest list if I'd kept my mouth shut. (Only 5 of them ended up coming.)

huskypuppy14 · February 2015

A lot of people got married at my work this year (including me). That doesn't mean we invited everyone we talked to. I am generally curious what other people are doing and would never expect an invitation.

I actually invited the most people from work to my wedding, because I have been there the longest. But none of those people were the ones getting married that year. I personally think it's fine to chit chat about your wedding at work if you are friendly with the people you work with. As long as it's not excessive.

JCbride2015 · February 2015

KatieinBkln said:

JCbride2015 said:

I just realized that my wedding collides with a HUGE deadline at work, like potentially the most important time in the case besides trial. I need to bring it up pretty soon and I'm basically dreading it.

My close girlfriends know about it but we mostly talk about my friend's impending birth (three weeks, I'm so excited). I feel like after J has her baby, my wedding will kind of be the next big event, so we'll talk about it more then. But so far it's not a major topic of conversation.

I knew I was doing it right when I called my assistant to book my honeymoon vacation and she didn't even know I was engaged.

My wedding is also during one of our busy times. Oops. In my defense I set the date before I even knew what this project was, let alone that it's a yearly thing. (I got engaged the day before I started this job. It was a big week).

I'm lucky that not too many people want to chit-chat about my wedding at work--I can share details with my actual friend-colleague so that is nice.

But I am still shocked at OP's coworker. I feel like people should be aware at work that "so where will your wedding be?" And such are just friendly small-talk, not Instant Bonding And Friendship Because Wedding!

Me too. Technically I set the date before I accepted my offer to come back full time. Can't do anything about it now... I think my team is going to be pretty understanding about it.

morewineplease · February 2015

huskypuppy14 said:

A lot of people got married at my work this year (including me). That doesn't mean we invited everyone we talked to. I am generally curious what other people are doing and would never expect an invitation.

I actually invited the most people from work to my wedding, because I have been there the longest. But none of those people were the ones getting married that year. I personally think it's fine to chit chat about your wedding at work if you are friendly with the people you work with. As long as it's not excessive.

This is what I thought. She was just being nice and curious as she might be planning a wedding soon (If she has not started already). However it when from 0-60, with questions like have you set a date, and the follow up about the venue to how she cannot wait to come dress shopping with me. It made me realize just how crazy some people can really be unexpectedly. Some of my closest friends have gotten married and I was not invited (nor did I expect to me) to the shopping trip. I figured that is Mom, sisters, and many be a brides maid event.

charlieyankee03 · February 2015

I get questions about the wedding on the daily from coworkers. Unfortunately, because FI used to work here too a few people are expecting to be invited that aren't. I bean dip when I can and give vague info when pressed. Luckily though, we're getting married out of state so we don't have to worry too much. We cut it off at only inviting coworkers that we actually hang out with outside of work, which is a whopping two people.

Hope you're hungry, sounds like there's a lot of bean dip in your future.

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