Dollar Dance...is it still acceptable?

Re: Dollar Dance...is it still acceptable?

• slothiegal member

  

  February 2015

  slm86 said:

  I know that society is moving away from dollar dances and many think its rude and a way to ask for money. However, I always loved when couples had a dollar dance and thought it was a cute way to get to dance with the bride/groom and give them a little spending cash for the honeymoon. All of my family members weddings have had it but I've only had 1 friend do it. I've just always liked it because it's a way to spend a couple one on one seconds with guests (but obviously having that extra little cash for the honeymoon would be nice) I personally have never thought it was rude or like they are ASKING or RAISING money but I know society is gearing more towards that perspective. That said, is it acceptable to do this? Or will the majority think its rude?

  
  

  
  

  
  

  Ruderudetrudetackyrudegrossrude.

  
  

  Adults know how to give money without having some tacky gimmick like a dollar dance.  If they want to open up their wallets, they will do so.

  

  
  

  
  

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• beethery member

  

  February 2015

  Nope. You can dance with the B&G without paying them.

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• southernbelle0915 mod

  

  February 2015

  No. Panhandling, even when wearing a fancy white dress, is still rude. Almost especially when wearing a fancy white dress.

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• Cookie Pusher member

  

  February 2015

  It's funny, I actually spent time with my guests (table visits AND a receiving line AND mingling AND dancing) without them having to pay for the "privilege". And I got money as wedding gifts without having to ask/beg/register for it.

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• CMGragain member

  

  February 2015

  Dollar dances were popular in certain ethnic communities, especially Polish and Scandinavian ones.  They were an old tradition brought from the old country.
  Most of these communities have now blended into mainstream  American society, and this custom is rarely observed these days. 
  Unless you are from a strongly ethnic community, I would not recommend doing the Dollar Dance.
  

  

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• fitvegan member

  

  February 2015

  Thank you @cmgragain ! That was very helpful! I have been trying to understand where it was acceptable and where it is not because I know so many that HAVE done it. Just trying to get a better understanding! Thank you!

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• wrigleyville member

  

  February 2015

  slm86 said:

  Thank you @cmgragain ! That was very helpful! I have been trying to understand where it was acceptable and where it is not because I know so many that HAVE done it. Just trying to get a better understanding! Thank you!

  Back in the old country, and even in the first generations of immigrants, the wedding guests would pin money to the bride's dress. This money was used to start the couple's first home.

  
  

  Now that wedding guests bring cards with money, the money dance is redundant and unnecessary. Some families continued the tradition, but it's dying out, as it's become more of a money grab than a gift-giving occasion.

  
  

  Plus, it's super boring to sit through. At big weddings, it can take as long as 30-45 minutes.

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• AddieCake member

  

  February 2015

  If you want to dance with the bride or groom, ask them to dance. If you want to give them money, put it in a card.

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• JoanE2012 member

  

  February 2015

  Dollar dances are rude.  Bring your own spending money on your honeymoon and make sure to visit with all your guests throughout the night to thank them for coming. 

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• Jen4948 member

  

  February 2015

  It's not up to your guests to finance your honeymoon for you.

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• allispain member

  

  February 2015

  Cookie Pusher said:

  It's funny, I actually spent time with my guests (table visits AND a receiving line AND mingling AND dancing) without them having to pay for the "privilege". And I got money as wedding gifts without having to ask/beg/register for it.

  Amazing - me too! 

  
  

  In fact, many of our guests were much more generous in their gift giving than I ever would have imagined. 

  
  

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• JCbride2015 member

  

  February 2015

  Yep, they are now widely considered rude.  I think the biggest clue here is that only one of your friends had one.  This goes to show that it's not an accepted thing in your social circle.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  "I'm not a rude bitch.  I'm ten rude bitches in a large coat."

  
  

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• levioosa member

  

  February 2015

  It's rude.  Don't do it.  Your guests should never have to open their wallets at your wedding. 

  
  

  
  

  

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