How to include moms S.O. with wedding announcement/wedding

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• levioosa member

  

  January 2015 Answer ✓

  I'm confused as to why you need to include the BF.  Has he helped raise you or made some significant positive impact in your life?  Or is he just "a nice guy" and you feel bad about not including him? 
  
  You do not include your father on the announcement or invitation (If I'm wrong, another poster can correct me). Your Mom's BF can walk your Mom down the aisle, or be seated already.  I don't think he needs a "role" though.  If anything, maybe ask him to do a reading? 
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• PrettyGirlLost member

  

  January 2015 Answer ✓

  Knottie67474191 said:

  9 years ago my father passed away from cancer. Since then my mom has found herself a nice boyfriend who I consider to be a nice guy. My conundrum comes with doing my wedding announcements and the physical wedding its self. When we do the announcements in the paper etc, how do we put that my mom and her boyfriend are announcing my engagement, but also include my deceased dad. My dad was very important to me and I am trying to be considerate of my moms boyfriend and his involvement in her life. 

  
  

  Secondly, my brother is giving me away. Its been decided and set in stone. How do I involve moms boyfriend with the ceremony, or just have him bring my mom down the aisle during the ceremony. My wedding is till a year a 3 months away, just trying to get as much configuring done as possible so I can not stress out as much closer to the wedding. Any suggestions or advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks. 

  I'm sorry for the loss of your father   I hate cancer!
  
  Many people here find it inappropriate to mention the deceased on engagement/wedding announcements and as hosts on wedding invitations.  The dead can't physically announce you or host your wedding/reception.
  
  However, in the announcement you could phrase it something like "Mrs. YourMother's Name is happy to announce the marriage of her daughter, YourName, daughter of the late YourFather'sName, to YourFI'sName."
  
  I wouldn't involve your mother's BF unless you are very close to him or he was instrumental in raising your or something.  Wedding announcements and invitations are just that- they aren't playbills.
  

  
  "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
  
  

  
  

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• levioosa member

  

  January 2015 Answer ✓

  Knottie67474191 said:

  The short of it is no, he didn't raise me, I was 18 when my dad passed and was 23 when he got with my mom. And it's long distance at that. However, I have been informed that things may change in the up coming months so it may be out of my hands. It may be Mr. and Mrs. Moms Bf's name announce the engagement of/wedding of me and fiance. So yea, that put a whole kabosh on the situation.

  
  

  Thank you ladies for posting your thoughts and ideas on the topic it is greatly helping.

  
  

  You're welcome.  Stick around!  The ladies here can be very helpful. 
  
  And I should have said it before, but I will say it now:  I am very sorry for the loss of your father. 
  
  It's great to get some of the big stuff out of the way, but just remember that some details can't be figured out too far in advance, and some details just don't matter in the end.  Keeping those two things in mind will really help you from stressing out too much. 
  

  
  

  
  

  

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