My sister is getting married and I am the MOH, however, one of my sister's bridesmaids and her mother offered early on to give my sister her bridal shower. She and my sister selected a date without consulting me or the MOB ( to inquire about any unavailable dates). When I was told the date for the shower it turns out it's the same weekend I had an out of town trip planned. I asked the hostess of the shower if there were any other possible dates considered, as I absolutely need to be at the shower. She gave me a very curt answer saying that it was the final date (this was 10 1/2 weeks prior to the selected date of the shower). I decided that I would have to cancel my trip and had no intention of saying anything to my sister. The hostess then proceeded to tell my sister (the bride) that I had asked the question, and that she thought it was rude and offensive. This upset my sister who was very upset with me for asking and told me I owed her an apology. I think it was inconsiderate for them not to ask me about my schedule since I absolutely need to attend. Am I wrong??
Re: Should MOH and MOB be consulted about bridal shower dates?
Sorry, but your sister can't expect you to be there and then not make sure the date the hosts were planning fit with your schedule. That's closing in on 'Zilla behavior.
Just calmly explain that you have plans already and are unable to cancel or rearrange and this is exactly WHY you asked if the date of the shower was set in stone. But as the hosts are not willing to change the date you are, unfortunately, not going to be able to attend. Stand your ground on this one.
But now I realize she's just a bridezilla. During one of your marriage planning sessions, suggest The Knot community forums. We got you.