Attire advice needed, esp from northern knotties!

Chipmunk415 · February 2015

As posted last week, my Grandma passed away on Monday. We are having a memorial service in Lancaster, PA, in March. Avg. high there is 51, low of 21.

Grandma never wanted me to show up to her service in stark black/mourning attire. The service is supposed to be a celebration of her and what an awesome person she was. DH is wearing the outfit (at my request) he wore to celebrate Christmas dinner with her (she was too frail to attend our wedding, but I took him north one December to meet this very important lady in my life) consisting of a salmon colored shirt, black dress pants and shoes, and a salmon, purple, and white tie (grandma swooned at what a "handsome fella" he was).

At issue is my attire. One of Grandma's favorite colors was Aqua blue/green. To that end, I ordered an Aqua top off Amazon. It's sleeveless, and involves chiffon. Due to her preference for skirts and my current weight loss efforts, I've ordered a knee length tan/beige skirt to go with the top. (I'm not concerned about comments from extended family over this apparent "spring" outfit, and whether it is appropriate, they can shove it- my mom and aunt are wearing aqua with me). I'll wear this for the service with a black cardigan and heels, and probably for the dinner after the fellowship time.

My concern is staying warm in transport to and from the service, during the service, and post service. While the cardigan will help, and I've winter coats that should be enough to keep me warm for upper body, I am concerned my legs will freeze off. All the tights/stockings I've looked at that are fleece lined are in dark colors.

Do any northern knotties know of nude colored stockings that are also fleece lined or otherwise helpful to keep warm? I want to look nice for Grandma, but not have my teeth chattering. Thanks!

FiancB · February 2015

Hm I don't think it's really a big deal to have dark leggings as long as the rest of you is bright? Also knee high boots are a staple. If you are really set against dark colors, some thickish tights is still helpful and better than bare. Think ballet or ice skating tights. They're thicker than hose but won't look silly.

Goodness, 51 sounds dreamy compared to here lol.

Chipmunk415 · February 2015

Caveat- I am in FL, where while it got down to 23 last week, it's 75 today. I'll be an ice pop if I'm not careful.

jenna8984 · February 2015

I love aqua, that sounds like a nice outfit. I'd just go with black tights (actual tights not leggings). Have a nice jacket over your cardigan. Layers on top really keep warmer than you think.

theartistformerlyknownas · February 2015

I think black tights would be balanced by the black cardigan, even with the light skirt. If you have black knee high boots, even better. Would also work with all that black traded for dark brown.

novella1186 · February 2015

I honestly think dark leggings would look really nice to kind of anchor the bright outfit, ya know? Or, as PP suggested, wear thick tights. I also suggest some very tall wool socks over the tights, knee-high boots, and maybe even some cute boot cuffs, like this:

In my experience (I've lived in the north my whole life) as long as you can keep your feet and upper body sufficiently warm, the part of your legs in just tights will be ok for what you're doing. Also make sure you have a hat and decent pair of gloves. It makes a difference.

And my condolences. I'm sorry for your loss

STARMOON44 · February 2015

I think dark tights will look off with a beige skirt. I'd do sheer nude hose. Unless you're going to outside for long periods of time, if you're just getting in and out of cars/buildings I think you'll be ok. If you're really worried I'd get a black skirt instead. Or just a whole different outfit. Something like this brings in a pretty blue green but would work with thick black tights.

http://m.zappos.com/karen-kane-blue-rose-tiffany-dress-mist

theartistformerlyknownas · February 2015

Black tights with tan skirt:
http://farm6.static.flickr.com/5060/5388946702_8e03581906_b.jpg
http://cdn10.lbstatic.nu/files/looks/medium/2012/10/31/2616745_open-uri20121031-331-18l9h06.jpg?1351722709

STARMOON44 · February 2015

Yeah I just don't like the look! But obviously if you love it go for it.

chibiyui · February 2015

I think black tights would be fine with the black cardigan.

That said, if you wanted to go lighter, if you're afraid of the cold, layer two nude pairs of tights.

If you want to be, bolder, you can do something like this

Also, PA in March is a clusterfuck. One day it will be 75 and the next it will be 30. It does this thru April. Can be frustrating.

Hell, this whole winter's been a clusterfuck.

daria24 · February 2015

Oh lord March and Lancaster could be anything. We usually got our biggest snow storms in March.

I'd probably just wear regular tights and boots, and then bring a thick shawl to drape over my legs when seated. Or even a blanket, I don't have any shame. Grandma would want you to be warm.

themuffinman16 · February 2015

My sister went out, last night with her H and wore sweatpants in the car.. You could also wear opaque tights.

RebeccaFlower · February 2015

Could you switch the beige skirt for gray? Teal top with black sweater, gray skirt, black tights and boots? So it's more of a pop of color and what I could consider appropriate for a funeral.

paperpusher · February 2015

Like someone else said March can be any type of weather.
I don't know of nude fleece lined tights but LTD has brown black and grey.
http://www.ltdcommodities.com/Apparel---Beauty/Fashion-Accessories/Socks--Hosiery/3-Pair-Assorted-Fleece-Lined-Tights//prod900534.jmp?fm=search&categoryId=

levioosa · February 2015

I think wearing black tights and a black cardigan will balance out the look.

charlottesmom0626 · February 2015

I agree with Pps, but if you are looking for nude, try dance tights. They're much less sheer.

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dcbride86 · February 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss!

As far as warm nude stockings - Spanx brand tends to be VERY warm. They basically insulate heat. Sometimes I prefer to wear them over pants to work because I swear they're warmer.

Again, I'm so sorry for your loss.

southernbelle0915 · February 2015

Your outfit sounds really cute! I would just plan to wear a long coat if its cold. It's just for getting from A to B right? The event is indoors, I assume.

mrsk616 · February 2015

i think the dark stockings would look fine. wear some knee high boots with wool socks and boot cuffs and you should be fine.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

novella1186 · February 2015

dcbride86 said:

I'm so sorry for your loss!
As far as warm nude stockings - Spanx brand tends to be VERY warm. They basically insulate heat. Sometimes I prefer to wear them over pants to work because I swear they're warmer.

Again, I'm so sorry for your loss.

I seriously just read the bolded and pictured your pulling tights on OVER your pants. I was thinking "She wears them over pants...? What? How would you even get them on?"

This is what happens when I haven't had my caffeine yet.

Chipmunk415 · February 2015

Thanks ladies! Im checking out nude stockings/tight this week. To clarify a few things...

1) I dont expect to be outside much but I can't guarantee the air conditioning wont be on in the chapel. Hence possible freezing.

2) Rebecca, while gray might be more of a funeral color, Grandma specifically told me several years ago that she didnt want all of us wearing black or really dark funeral type colors. Add that with my current figure and the knee length dark tan skirt I found is the only one that a) fits well (she was big on tastefully fitting clothing) and b) is long enough. All the grey skirts I looked at are much too short, and im taking the "would grandma approve of that" approach for the length

3) I might get a bit of snark from some of her nieces and nephews, but aqua blue and tan was always a favorite pairing of hers. Ill post a photo once the top arrives for further suggestions

PrettyGirlLost · February 2015

FiancB said:

Hm I don't think it's really a big deal to have dark leggings as long as the rest of you is bright? Also knee high boots are a staple. If you are really set against dark colors, some thickish tights is still helpful and better than bare. Think ballet or ice skating tights. They're thicker than hose but won't look silly.

Goodness, 51 sounds dreamy compared to here lol.

LOl, there's no way it's going to be in the 50's in Lancaster in March!

I am going to be out there for a gaming convention the 1st weekend in March. . . so far the projected forecast for Thursday, March 5th is 35F with a low of 17F.

Personally, I really hate when people pair dark tights with lighter skirts. It looks off to me. I'd get a pair of nude tights or stockings, and wear leg warmers in the car if you need to to stay warm.

Just because your grandmother said she didn't want everyone in head to toe dark funeral colors, doesn't mean you can't wear any dark colors, though. I agree that I think a dark grey skirt or pants would look better with your blouse. In fact, pants would be much more comfortable (warm) for you.

Attire advice needed, esp from northern knotties!

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