Gift for the Groom

blabla89 · February 2015

Last night FI told me that he wants to give watches to his GMs and he sent me the ones he's looking at. He picked out a different watch for each, but they're all pretty similar to the watch I had picked out to give to FI on our wedding day. The one I picked for him is a little bit more expensive due to the brand name, but other than that there isn't much difference. Suddenly it doesn't seem like such a special wedding gift anymore

So I'm going back to the drawing board and need some ideas. What did you/will you give your groom?

dcbride86 · February 2015

I think we are just going to write each other nice letters. The honeymoon is so expensive and is our gift to each other basically, so I love the idea of just having a letter from him to keep forever. Maybe we'll also do some small gift, but just something small

KeptInStitches · February 2015

I got this (link) and filled it in.

cupcait927 · February 2015

I would probably still get him the watch, even though he got his GMs similar ones. It's still an awesome gift!

I got H tickets to a special beer and food tasting event at the culinary center in our town. We do beer and wine tastings all the time but this one was a little fancier than what we normally do and more expensive so ordinarily we wouldn't have gone. H loved it.

novella1186 · February 2015

I think you just got confirmation that the watch IS the right gift. If that's what your FI picked for his best friends, obviously he likes the idea. Maybe since all his friends are getting a watch, he'd really love also getting one so they can ALL remember the wedding day together with watches, plus his will be nicer than theirs, plus his will be from YOU, so it will still be a special thing just for him.

I started a journal right when I met FI and actually started writing stuff about our first date, the first time I went to visit him in his city, etc etc etc. I've been writing in it for 2 and a half years now and he doesn't know about it. I'm not the type to write in a journal but the very first time I met him I just knew in my gut that it was something really special and he was "the one" so I felt like I should start recording our history. I even wrote down cute texts he sent me when we first started dating. I think I'm giving him that for our wedding.

climbingsingle · February 2015

We didn't exchange gifts.

pinkcow13 · February 2015

I'm considering taking boudoir pics. Although, now I'm not so sure. I keep thinking, when will I give them to him? And what will he do with them, really? It's not like he can display them at work or something. Now that we are getting so close to the wedding, and making final payments and stuff, I kinda feel like maybe we shouldn't exchange gifts lol. My wallet can't take much more.

plainjane0415 · February 2015

I'm going to get him a new pair of sunglasses. He has worn his favorite ones out, and he needs a new pair. I thought this would be a good excuse to get him a new pair

ETA: This works out well since we are getting married at the beach!

blabla89 · February 2015

pinkcow13 said:

I'm considering taking boudoir pics. Although, now I'm not so sure. I keep thinking, when will I give them to him? And what will he do with them, really? It's not like he can display them at work or something. Now that we are getting so close to the wedding, and making final payments and stuff, I kinda feel like maybe we shouldn't exchange gifts lol. My wallet can't take much more.

Ugh, that's where I'm at too. When we first realized how much everything was going to cost, we decided not to exchange gifts. But whenever FI and I agree not to exchange gifts or to keep it below a certain amount (for anniversaries, valentine's day, etc.) FI always goes way over the top and I look like a cheapskate by comparison. Don't want that to happen on our wedding day...

katiekessler123 · February 2015

I think if he bought a watch for his friends, he would prob really enjoy getting one as well. Clearly he thinks it's a nice gift! On that note, my husband and I didn't exchange gifts. We bought something we both wanted together after we got back from the honeymoon as our "gift" to each other. In general though, we are not big gift givers, even on Christmas and birthdays. I would rather use the money to go out and do something and go to a nice dinner, etc.

pinkcow13 · February 2015

blabla89 said:

pinkcow13 said:

I'm considering taking boudoir pics. Although, now I'm not so sure. I keep thinking, when will I give them to him? And what will he do with them, really? It's not like he can display them at work or something. Now that we are getting so close to the wedding, and making final payments and stuff, I kinda feel like maybe we shouldn't exchange gifts lol. My wallet can't take much more.

Ugh, that's where I'm at too. When we first realized how much everything was going to cost, we decided not to exchange gifts. But whenever FI and I agree not to exchange gifts or to keep it below a certain amount (for anniversaries, valentine's day, etc.) FI always goes way over the top and I look like a cheapskate by comparison. Don't want that to happen on our wedding day...

Haha, that's kinda how I feel too! Sometimes I feel like I'm on the cheapside when it comes to gifts. I think I'll play it by ear.

I do think that your watch idea is a great gift, though.

luckya23 · February 2015

I was thinking about getting him Ray-bans, but if I give him that as a wedding gift, he will feel extra guilty when he INEVITABLY breaks them!

ETA: He probably doesn't know this is a thing, so it will probably not be a thing for us.

blabla89 · February 2015

pinkcow13 said:

blabla89 said:

pinkcow13 said:

I'm considering taking boudoir pics. Although, now I'm not so sure. I keep thinking, when will I give them to him? And what will he do with them, really? It's not like he can display them at work or something. Now that we are getting so close to the wedding, and making final payments and stuff, I kinda feel like maybe we shouldn't exchange gifts lol. My wallet can't take much more.

Ugh, that's where I'm at too. When we first realized how much everything was going to cost, we decided not to exchange gifts. But whenever FI and I agree not to exchange gifts or to keep it below a certain amount (for anniversaries, valentine's day, etc.) FI always goes way over the top and I look like a cheapskate by comparison. Don't want that to happen on our wedding day...

Haha, that's kinda how I feel too! Sometimes I feel like I'm on the cheapside when it comes to gifts. I think I'll play it by ear.

I do think that your watch idea is a great gift, though.

Yeah...I wish I could afford to get him a really nice watch, but after paying for the entire wedding myself, it just isn't feasible. The one I picked out was around $50 more than the ones for the GMs. I thought it was a decent chunk of money for me to spend, but when FI can drop the money for three of them, it just seems kind of stingy.

Cookie Pusher · February 2015

climbingwife said:

We didn't exchange gifts.

We didn't either. After all, he bought me a sparkly ring and I bought him a wedding. Did we really need to spend any more money after that?

anjemon · February 2015

I agree with @novella1186. You just got confirmation he thinks the watches are nice and he thinks they're a good gift. Why not go with it?

I have no idea what to get my FI. As usual he has picked out all of his GM gifts and I haven't picked out any BM gifts. Eventually I'll think of something.

dcbride86 · February 2015

pinkcow13 said:

I'm considering taking boudoir pics. Although, now I'm not so sure. I keep thinking, when will I give them to him? And what will he do with them, really? It's not like he can display them at work or something. Now that we are getting so close to the wedding, and making final payments and stuff, I kinda feel like maybe we shouldn't exchange gifts lol. My wallet can't take much more.

I was considering this too, but I had the same thought. Do I have someone give it to him on the day of the wedding while we're getting ready? And do the guys all get ready together like girls tend to do? Because I'd really rather his groomsmen not see me in lingerie. Especially my brother. Because ew and awkward.

dcbride86 · February 2015

novella1186 said:

I think you just got confirmation that the watch IS the right gift. If that's what your FI picked for his best friends, obviously he likes the idea. Maybe since all his friends are getting a watch, he'd really love also getting one so they can ALL remember the wedding day together with watches, plus his will be nicer than theirs, plus his will be from YOU, so it will still be a special thing just for him.

I started a journal right when I met FI and actually started writing stuff about our first date, the first time I went to visit him in his city, etc etc etc. I've been writing in it for 2 and a half years now and he doesn't know about it. I'm not the type to write in a journal but the very first time I met him I just knew in my gut that it was something really special and he was "the one" so I felt like I should start recording our history. I even wrote down cute texts he sent me when we first started dating. I think I'm giving him that for our wedding.

This is actually the cutest thing I've ever heard of. It's so sweet and personal.

Kind of related, on new years, I started writing down good moments that happened and putting them in a jar. And in December, I'll open it up and read all the good things that happened throughout the year. I'm considering doing something like that starting when we get married, and giving him something with them for our first anniversary.

novella1186 · February 2015

dcbride86 said:

novella1186 said:

I think you just got confirmation that the watch IS the right gift. If that's what your FI picked for his best friends, obviously he likes the idea. Maybe since all his friends are getting a watch, he'd really love also getting one so they can ALL remember the wedding day together with watches, plus his will be nicer than theirs, plus his will be from YOU, so it will still be a special thing just for him.

I started a journal right when I met FI and actually started writing stuff about our first date, the first time I went to visit him in his city, etc etc etc. I've been writing in it for 2 and a half years now and he doesn't know about it. I'm not the type to write in a journal but the very first time I met him I just knew in my gut that it was something really special and he was "the one" so I felt like I should start recording our history. I even wrote down cute texts he sent me when we first started dating. I think I'm giving him that for our wedding.

This is actually the cutest thing I've ever heard of. It's so sweet and personal.

Kind of related, on new years, I started writing down good moments that happened and putting them in a jar. And in December, I'll open it up and read all the good things that happened throughout the year. I'm considering doing something like that starting when we get married, and giving him something with them for our first anniversary.

Aw thanks! And that is an awesome idea! I totally want to steal that! Doing it.

OliveOilsMom · February 2015

We didn't exchange gifts, just letters to each other to read that morning.

But could you get the back of the watch engraved so that it is more personalized than the watches he is giving his GM? I agree with the others who said that him getting his GM watches confirms that your idea of a watch for him is a great idea.

blabla89 · February 2015

FI mentioned maybe getting the GMs' watches engraved

I kind of tried to steer him away from it, so that if I ended up giving him a watch it would still be a little bit special. I guess I will wait and see what he decides to do for the GM gifts. Thanks for all the ideas ladies!

[Deleted User] · February 2015

We haven't decided for sure if we're doing gifts, but I already told fiance that I wasn't getting him a watch because I know he'll never wear it. He says he wants a nice / expensive one, but I don't see the point when I know he won't use it.

He shaves most every day so I am thinking about getting him a nice badger hair shaving brush and foam cup, if we in fact do gifts.

I think this is still a "shop like it's their birthday" moment.

FutureMrsN3312 · February 2015

I wrote a mushy card and last minute I got us tickets to Billy Joel. We were going to get tickets anyway but there was a somewhat last minute Saturday night show that would work best for our schedule so I jumped the gun and bought them.

It made his morning a little more fun.

littlemushroom · February 2015

We didn't exchange gifts, but kind of considered our honeymoon our gift to each other.

I agree with PPs who said it sounds more like you got confirmation the watch is a great gift that he will really like.

GoldenPenguin · February 2015

I was at a conference last June, and there was a silent auction, and one of the items was an autographed Rob Gronkowski jersey. I bid, and won, with the intent of it being his wedding day gift. It's been at my parents house (five hours away) since August, because I was afraid I wouldn't be able to hold out through football season. It's a good thing too, because after the Patriots won the Super Bowl, I REALLY wanted him to have it. I think he will be thrilled when he gets it.

lovesclimbing · February 2015

I'm not much help because we didn't get each other anything. We were going to and then it got close and we were dead broke.

Inkdancer · February 2015

I also got H a watch. His broke a month or so before the wedding so I upgraded him to a nicer one. I think it's a good choice because it's something he'll use every day for a very long time.

flyingfoxes · February 2015

IA with going ahead and getting him the watch! I might be a bit biased though because I'm giving FI a watch for his gift as well....he picked it out so he already knows what it is, and he got me my bridal jewelry as my gift from him.

theartistformerlyknownas · February 2015

He got a wife, that's a big enough gift.

I had done the boudoir shoot, and left his photo book on his pillow as a surprise the night before the wedding, but didn't really think of it as a "wedding gift." I've honestly never understood the couple buying each other gifts.

SmileDamnit · February 2015

Yeah - no gifts for us, either. He did give me a really sweet note when I leaving for the salon the morning of, and I had been keeping a "reasons I want to marry you" journal that I have him later in the day, but that was the extent of it.

ashley8918 · February 2015

I got him a hot wife.

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