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Ughhh I'm an idiot

charcoalandblushcharcoalandblush member
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So we were hanging out with a couple that DF is friends with the other night and I made a comment assuming they'd be at our wedding. Today I'm looking at the guest list to get someone else's address and realize... they're not on it. They never got a save-the-date. It's not that we dislike these people or anything, they're friends of DF's and are very charming and fun people, I guess he just didn't consider them close enough to put on the invite list.

Obviously we're going to invite them, since we orally mentioned them being invited. At this point, would you send them a save-the-date, or just an invitation? Save-the-dates went out about a month ago.

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Re: Ughhh I'm an idiot

  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    Just send them an invite.

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  • julieanne912julieanne912 member
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    edited March 2015
    I would just add them to your list now (so you don't forget them again) and then send them an invite when the time comes, especially since it sounds like they're local and won't need to make travel plans to come to the wedding, right?  One of the main points of save the dates is so people who live further away to have time to make travel plans.  A standard invitation sent 8 weeks ahead may not be enough time to do that, so that's what a save the date is for.

    ETA:  We were the recipients of a save the date that I know was an afterthought, because we had visited another mutual friend's home where the save the date magnet was already on their fridge.  Ours arrived about a month later, after we had seen one half of the couple at a party.  So we pretty much knew we were forgotten LOL

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  • dcbride86dcbride86 member
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    Just send them an invite.  We invited several people that didn't get STDs

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  • lovegood90lovegood90 member
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    Save the dates aren't mandatory, so don't worry about it. I'd just send them an invite at this point.

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  • charcoalandblushcharcoalandblush member
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    Thanks guys! That's what I'll do.

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  • marie2785marie2785 member
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    If they need to travel for the wedding, send the STD so they can make travel plans. As long as you have a few spare ones, it can't hurt. If no travel is required, skip the STD. 


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  • SP29SP29 member
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    Agreed- send an invite when the time comes. STDs should only be for VIPs anyway. 
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