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(cross post) Don't take my drink coasters.

caitlinmcacaitlinmca member
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Has anybody thought about using these? or Has anybody actually used them
at their wedding or seen someone use them, if so how did end up working
out?

My fiance and I thought about buying them and setting them
out at each place setting and also showing/telling our wedding
consultant that we have with our venue about them and also to give the
servers a heads up about them as well because when we went to our venues
food tasting they also had a wine tasting during the same time, we
walked away to get food several times and the servers took our full/half
full glasses of wine several time. Just a glass of wine at our venue is 5-9
dollars depending on the brand maybe more. I want to minimize the amount
of servers picking up half full glasses that are still being finished
by people going to the bathroom, through the line for more food, dancing, or because the drinks are too strong and they are letting
them get a little watered down.
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Re: (cross post) Don't take my drink coasters.

  • VulgarGirlVulgarGirl member
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    Just to clarify...your guests aren't spending the $5-$9 on each glass of wine...right?
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  • caitlinmcacaitlinmca member
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    edited March 2015
    @MagicInk no we are doing open bar, fiance and I are paying for the bar, won't know the final total until the day after the wedding but say the malbec we chose as 1 red wine is $7 dollars and a white wine is $9 dollars and so forth, if those keep getting picked up like they did at our tasting because we would go back to a different station for food, dancing, bathroom etc and only 3 to 4 sips taken/half drank etc, then our bar bill is going to be outrageous. My fiance and I ended up going and getting 5-6 glasses of wine just because our glasses kept getting picked up by the servers when we weren't done.

    Edit--we are also doing beer as well, but I don't know if those are being served in bottles, cans, or glasses via draft.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    Then why don't you just pay the bar per person instead of by consumption if you are that concerned about drinks going to waste?

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  • VulgarGirlVulgarGirl member
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    Ok, I just wanted to make sure. I didn't have any of these at my wedding. We were in BYOB place and we stocked our bar big time. 

    Though from conditioning, if I leave my drink, I'm planning on not drinking it again because someone has probably drugged it so they can rape me. Cause I'm a girl and have spent the past 28 years learning all the fun ways to not get raped. Rule #4 in the don't get raped handbook, never leave your drink unattended and if you do don't drink from it because it has been roofied.

    I'd talk to your coordinator with your venue about not whisking away glasses too quickly. Things might be different for your actual wedding then they were at your tasting.
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  • littlemushroomlittlemushroom member
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    Don't trust that talking to the staff beforehand will solve that problem. That exact thing happened at my friends' wedding. The servers even took away full drinks left on the head table while everyone was on the dance floor. No matter how many people they spoke to that night, it kept happening. It was a nightmare for them trying to get a discount on their bar tab because people had to go back for a new drink anytime they set one down.
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  • caitlinmcacaitlinmca member
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    edited March 2015
    @Maggie0829 Our venue only allows 2 ways to pay the bar, a host open bar and you pay a certain amount a few days prior to your wedding, and then when you receive the exact number the day after the wedding, you either are charged more, or they credit you back if you are under. The other option is a cash bar which I will not allow. Our venue has no per person dollar amount like each person is $28 dollars and that covers them.
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  • Sugargirl1019Sugargirl1019 member
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    edited March 2015
    I feel the annoyance here.. A wedding last summer had a 2 drink max, and we had drink tickets. Both of my wine glasses got picked up half full. I was furious. Could not get another glass of wine and the cake hadn't been cut yet.

    But it's also one of those things that you can't throw a fit about because theres only a few choices you can do. You cant tell the staff to not pick up drinks (because it's not a guarantee), but pay for the open bar, because that does not give drink maximums. Guests will be happy they can grab another drink.

    ETA: regarding the coasters, I don't know that I would spend the money on them. Put that money into the bar fund. Servers probably won't have time to look at what the thing the glass is sitting on actually says.

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  • novella1186novella1186 member
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    As a guest, if I set my drink down and it got taken away, I would have the sense to hold onto my next drink. Cuz nobody takes my vodka. Nobody.
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  • mikenbergermikenberger member
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    novella1186 said:

    As a guest, if I set my drink down and it got taken away, I would have the sense to hold onto my next drink. Cuz nobody takes my vodka. Nobody.

    Out of my cold, dead, motherfucking manicured hands.

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  • lovemesomemonsterlovemesomemonster member
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    novella1186 said:

    As a guest, if I set my drink down and it got taken away, I would have the sense to hold onto my next drink. Cuz nobody takes my vodka. Nobody.

    PREACH! My wine glass is my best dance partner, bathroom buddy, and movie watching friend.. you take my wine, I may or may not cut off your hand...

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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    sounds good in theory, but I doubt it will help in the way you think it will.   

    While it's a possibility the staff just ignores the coaster, I think guests will just flat out not think to use them.

    On another note I agree with  @magicink.   If I put down I drink I do not go back for it for the reasons she gave.








    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    Beyond scary possibilities, I also don't go back for a drink because germs and other people and wide open container and stuff.

    I would never think to use one of these, and I think you're better off discussing the concern with your venue than prompting your guests to use coasters as do not disturb signs.

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  • JennyColadaJennyColada member
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    I think @lolo883 did something similar to this. Maybe she can give you some input.
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    JennyColada said:

    I think @lolo883 did something similar to this. Maybe she can give you some input.

    I considered it but didn't pull the trigger... in hindsight I wish I had, because a lot of people said the wait staff was super aggressive with the busing, but I can't say definitively that it would have helped.
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  • lavenderfields13lavenderfields13 member
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    OP, I could have written this myself. I was just talking to my mom about how at our food tasting a woman at our table had her wine taken off the table while she had her back turned and she was still sitting there. She was NOT happy when she turned to grab her glass.

    I considered getting these coasters but I don't think I will. I think they're $1/piece and I'd rather put the money towards the bar since I don't know if they'll really get used or if it will help. At our next venue meeting I plan on bringing up this concern with our coordinator. Our options are the same as yours- cash or hosted, no per person amount :(

     




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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    I guess since I rarely put a half full drink down at a wedding and walk away (my glass of wine goes with me everywhere, except the bathroom, then my H holds it until I get back) I just never even considered that this could be a problem.

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