So just a little background - we have a beautiful, all inclusive venue booked for June 2016. Already made a deposit on the venue, told family and friends (including patiently coaxing my extremely socially fearful mother into being excited for the event), purchased a dress, and have met with and informally chosen a photographer and officiant. I am EXCITED for it when I think of the actual day - getting to celebrate with all my family and friends, my beautiful dress my mother helped me happily pick out, the memories made that day - all of it. It's our dream wedding.
Then comes the sickening, sinking feeling I get in my stomach when I think of the money this wedding is costing. Don't get me wrong, FI and I can afford it. But still, this feeling of $20k+ for one day is seeming more and more absurd. The nail in the coffin was when I was at dinner last weekend with my best friend who had a beautiful wedding last summer - I asked him what he would have done differently with his wedding, and he said straight up he would have eloped. I almost wish he would have lied to me.
So I talk to FI, and we are now toying with the idea of completely cancelling the wedding and eloping on a two week dream vacation - something FI is much happier to spend the money on. If I could get everything I wanted, I would love to do a backyard wedding then spend the money on the dream vacation, but it's extremely overwhelming for me to think of cancelling this pretty much planned wedding and starting from scratch with a 1/4 of our original budget.
I guess my question is, have any brides gone through this before? Wanting to throw everything out the window because the money is just CRAZY for a one day party? Has anyone actually gone through with it and planned something more reasonable? My feelings are so conflicted right now, it's making my head spin.
This is why we can't have nice things.