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Walking down the aisle

needsadvice22needsadvice22 member
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Just a little back story. I have a child from a previous relationship. He will be 6 when my fiance and I get married. My son's biological father isn't in the picture and my fiance has taken over the role as dad. We always talked about how my son would have a big part in our wedding.

About a year and a half ago my dad passed away from cancer. He loved my fiance and even made my mom put money away for when we get married since he couldn't be there. Now I won't have my das to walk me down the aisle.

We've been thinking that my son walks me down the aisle. However, we recently had a baby together who will be 2 when we get married. I would feel bad having my oldest walk with me and not my youngest but I feel like it'd be difficult with 2 kids and one being a toddler. My fiance says to have our youngest be the ring bearer but I feel it's not an equal role as it'd be to walk my down the aisle.

Idk which way I should go so no one feels left out and so it's not hectic.
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  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    A two year old will have no clue what's going on. He isn't going to feel left out because he won't understand the significance. I think 2 is too young to be involved no matter what the role. He might be fine, he might have a total meltdown half way down the aisle. You just don't know at that age.

    I'd just have your 6 year old son walk you down. Very sweet! The 2 y/o can sit with grandma.
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  • needsadvice22needsadvice22 member
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    southernbelle0915 said:

    A two year old will have no clue what's going on. He isn't going to feel left out because he won't understand the significance. I think 2 is too young to be involved no matter what the role. He might be fine, he might have a total meltdown half way down the aisle. You just don't know at that age.

    I'd just have your 6 year old son walk you down. Very sweet! The 2 y/o can sit with grandma.

    I don't mean he'll feel left out at the time but when we look back at pictures and all of that.
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  • mrscomposermrscomposer member
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    When he's old enough to look back at the pictures and understand what was going on, he'll be old enough for you to explain why it wasn't feasible for a two year old to be involved in the wedding.

    I was almost two when my parents got married - and I wasn't involved at all.  When I was old enough to know what a flower girl was, I looked at the pictures of the wedding, saw that all the ones of me were either out on the dance floor or sleeping on my grandma's shoulder, and it didn't bother me one bit.

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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    needsadvice22 said:

    southernbelle0915 said:

    A two year old will have no clue what's going on. He isn't going to feel left out because he won't understand the significance. I think 2 is too young to be involved no matter what the role. He might be fine, he might have a total meltdown half way down the aisle. You just don't know at that age.

    I'd just have your 6 year old son walk you down. Very sweet! The 2 y/o can sit with grandma.

    I don't mean he'll feel left out at the time but when we look back at pictures and all of that.
    Your kid will not feel left out or unloved when he looks back on your wedding pictures because I am assuming that you will be taking pictures with him right?  You are over thinking this.  He is two, he won't remember your wedding.  And when he is old enough to look at pictures as long as he is in them I doubt he will be all "WTF MOM?!  Why the hell didn't I walk you down the aisle?"

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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    He will supposedly be mature enough to understand that when he was 2, he was too young for any "role" in the ceremony and that sitting with his grandma was all he could handle at the time. Don't over think this.
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    mrscomposer said:

    When he's old enough to look back at the pictures and understand what was going on, he'll be old enough for you to explain why it wasn't feasible for a two year old to be involved in the wedding.

    I was almost two when my parents got married - and I wasn't involved at all.  When I was old enough to know what a flower girl was, I looked at the pictures of the wedding, saw that all the ones of me were either out on the dance floor or sleeping on my grandma's shoulder, and it didn't bother me one bit.

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