Hi everyone,
Before I start, I should say I'm a Canadian living permanently in Japan getting married to my Japanese fiancee this August
So the norms don't apply in some ways but I am just looking for some advice! We are avoiding doing things the 'typical' Japanese way (either huge hotel wedding or a shrine/temple) but also obviously are not doing it the typical Canadian way either.
Our date is August 3. I just read a threat telling someone not to have a ceremony if you have already been to city hall, but I think things work differently here. We will get married at city hall the week before, but that is just actually filing the paperwork. Often people in Japan file the paperwork and then have a ceremony at a church, shrine, etc. I don't really understand it myself.
So we have a restaurant booked out for the evening of August 3 and about 30 guests. A good friend of mine who is American will 'officiate' (and I will need to figure someone out to translate for his family since the person I had in mind will be very pregnant!) I don't especially want a 'ceremony' per se, but I would like to do something - maybe exchange vows, make a speech, etc. Then we will have dinner and a bit of entertainment, a slideshow and a bit of live music from some friends.
Since I have been to very few weddings in my time, can anyone share with me a non-religious, fairly casual 'ceremony' or something similar, or give me any ideas how to structure it? I know I am being very vague but we are kind of breaking tradition here in many ways so I don't have much to compare it to.
Thanks