So the other night I blew up at one of our groomsmen because he was making about the 100th joke about doing something to my fiance before the wedding... this time he was joking about shaving my fiance's head the night before the wedding. Now the groomsmen is upset because I treated him like a child, which he was acting like, and is threatening to not be in the wedding. This is my fiance's best friend, although my fiance is pretty upset by his actions as well, so as of right now we are thinking about not having him in the wedding. I don't want to make a knee jerk reaction out of anger because they have been friends for over ten years, so I was thinking about having my fiance sit down and talk to him about our expectations. Before I do that, does anyone think these expectations are too extreme:
1) Make sure
everyone is having a good time, not just you, everyone, which means if you see
a need... fill it. if you see someone needs help... help. If someone doesn’t have a
drink (in the wedding party)... get them one. Make sure everyone is happy and enjoying themselves, and
if there is something you can do to make them have more fun do it. This is not
about you having a good time, this is about what can you do to make sure this
is a memorable time for the wedding party, and especially the bride and groom. If they are having a good time, you will be having a good time.
2) Do not
make life more stressful for the bride and groom… be as helpful as possible. Do
things when asked. Get things done right away. If you think it might stress the
bride or groom out, don’t do it. Use common sense. At this point, everything
stresses the bride out, which stresses the groom out.
3) Buy a
present. You can go in with people, but you are expected to buy a nice present.
Check out their wedding registry.
4) Bachelor
party… talk to the groom about what he wants to do, but make the arrangements,
so if he wants a party bus, you research and investigate limo companies, get a
list from the groom who he wants to invite, send out invitations and confirm
who is coming and how much the cost. Come up with a game plan.
5) If you
are asked to give a speech, you are to do it in under five minutes, it should
be about the bride and groom and how happy you are for them, it should not be a
roast, you need to remember your audience is people who do not know you and may
not know the bride and the groom, so choose jokes wisely.
6) Do not
get overly intoxicated. Do not drink the night before the wedding. Do not get
the groom drunk. Do not get the groom drunk the night before the wedding.
7) Smile in pictures and do what you are told by the photographer.
8) Do what you are told without question on the day of the wedding.
9) Be early to everything. If your on time, your late.
Let me know if you think this is too extreme.