Momzilla in the making?

Re: Momzilla in the making?

• Kate61487 member

  

  November 2011 edited December 2011

  You're still at the very beginning, so it wouldn't hurt to have a heart to heart and explain to her that you will not begin planning until at least X date and that it makes you uncomfortable that she's trying to plan it without you.  If that doesn't work do as PP suggested and just refuse to talk wedding.

  

   
  

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• nlindsay17 member

  

  November 2011 edited December 2011

  Next time she goes to look at a venue without you just tell her it's really nice she's going to pay for it. She'll stop quick enough.

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  November 2011 edited December 2011

  She is probably just very excited for you and can't wait to help you plan, but I think you need to have a little sit down with her and reiterate your plans.  If she still goes to look at wedding stuff behind your back I would immediately stop sharing any info with her whatsoever.  Two years is a long time to plan a wedding so you have plenty of time but you need to get her under control now before she makes your life miserable for the next two years.

  
  

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• divadancer11 member

  

  November 2011 edited December 2011

  My mom was the same with me....we got engaged in July and between her and my granny I didnt know who was worse. Our wedding is next Sept so once engaged I knew that I had to find a venue ASAP. During my looking my mom starts asking me about how I want my hair, and what kind of flowers and who will be in charge of the box that holds the envelopes....smh
  It will die down.......have patience and try not to speak to her as often (it works) to not stress yourself out!!!!

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• StephBeanWed61502 member

  

  November 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_momzilla-making?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:c9a2ee2e-d6b4-483e-9b5c-af57fa2177dcPost:ebe36a82-d33b-4c8a-b228-244c29594ff4">Re: Momzilla in the making?</a>:
  [QUOTE]Next time she goes to look at a venue without you just tell her it's really nice she's going to pay for it. She'll stop quick enough.
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• volleygurl0306 member

  

  November 2011 edited December 2011

  Definitely have a sit down with your mom because if you two are paying for something two years from now, you probably don't even have a grasp of what your budget is.  You may try taking this angle because if she is going to venues that are $300pp she's spinning her wheels if thats more than what you can afford.  I highly encourage you to take even more than a month before planning because 2 years is a long time and once the planning starts...it takes over!  Now that we are in the middle of it my FI and I have said how we wish we took more time to enjoy simply being engaged without planning.  It's a special time that you don't get back.  Tell your mom you are just enjoying showing your ring off and having that blissful glow that happens after a proposal.  Then tell her that the process of planning (this is true too) is that you need to decide a budget and a rough guest list so you know how much you can spend and how much space you need.  If you want to keep her busy, tell her to come up with the family and friends on her side she would LIKE to be invited (though since you are paying they don't have to be).  This will give her something to do and will help you out when you get to that part of planning since you won't have to wait on her list.

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