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Seating for baby carriers

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It just occurred to me that FSIL and FBIL will be bringing their twin babies to the wedding, and I hadn't thought about seating them at the ceremony. FSIL is a BM so it will just be FBIL sitting with the two baby carriers. So my question is, would it be more convenient to have two chairs reserved next to FBIL's seat to set the carriers on, or two empty spaces to set them on the floor?

FSIL and FBIL are currently not speaking to FI and I due to an ongoing spat between them and FILs (but that's another story) so I can't call and ask them what they prefer. Hoping you ladies can tell me which is better.
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  • dresdendolldresdendoll member
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    edited March 2015
    blabla89 said:

    It just occurred to me that FSIL and FBIL will be bringing their twin babies to the wedding, and I hadn't thought about seating them at the ceremony. FSIL is a BM so it will just be FBIL sitting with the two baby carriers. So my question is, would it be more convenient to have two chairs reserved next to FBIL's seat to set the carriers on, or two empty spaces to set them on the floor?

    FSIL and FBIL are currently not speaking to FI and I due to an ongoing spat between them and FILs (but that's another story) so I can't call and ask them what they prefer. Hoping you ladies can tell me which is better.

    I would be concerned that the seats aren't big enough for the baby carriers or that the carriers wouldn't fit securely on the chairs. 

    I still think that it would be best to ask the parents. Since FSIL is a BM I would assume that you have to talk to her at some point, right? Even if it's just at the rehearsal.

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    dresdendoll said:

    blabla89 said:

    It just occurred to me that FSIL and FBIL will be bringing their twin babies to the wedding, and I hadn't thought about seating them at the ceremony. FSIL is a BM so it will just be FBIL sitting with the two baby carriers. So my question is, would it be more convenient to have two chairs reserved next to FBIL's seat to set the carriers on, or two empty spaces to set them on the floor?

    FSIL and FBIL are currently not speaking to FI and I due to an ongoing spat between them and FILs (but that's another story) so I can't call and ask them what they prefer. Hoping you ladies can tell me which is better.

    I would be concerned that the seats aren't big enough for the baby carriers or that the carriers wouldn't fit securely on the chairs. 

    I still think that it would be best to ask the parents. Since FSIL is a BM I would assume that you have to talk to her at some point, right? Even if it's just at the rehearsal.

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    I agree with this. OP, are you having ushers? Maybe you could ask ushers (or someone working at the venue) to look for parents with carriers and ask them what they prefer as they're seated? Then if they want the carriers on the floor, the usher can remove the chairs. 
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  • huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 member
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    One of your BM is not speaking to you? That seems like more of a problem. She'll have to speak to you eventually, no?
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    Does your venue have highchairs available, by any chance?  When my kids were carrier age, a lot of restaurant-type highchairs were designed to flip over and the carrier would fit in there.  That said, sometimes the fit wasn't the best, in which case I'd choose the floor over a typical chair.  At least they can't fall off the floor.
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    The floor is the best place.   Baby carrier seats should not be placed on chairs and it's not really secure to put them even in an upside down high chair.
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  • labrolabro member
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    My cousins who brought young babies actually ended up sitting in the back row of the ceremony (their decision, I didn't say anything to them about where to sit or what to do with the carriers) and kept the babies in their carriages behind their chairs. I think one of the babies may have started crying during the ceremony and it was super easy for them to slip out and take care of their little one. Both babies were 3 months old or less at the time. I think you can leave it up to the parents in this case to figure out what's going to be appropriate for their babies.

    At the reception I just told my venue which table the families were seated at and she left an open space at the table for the carriers.



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    Have empty chairs next to him. If he decides to put the carriers on the floor he will still have space to put the diaper bag. But like PP said, if you have ushers, have them help him out & tell them to offer to remove the chairs next to him if it would make him more comfortable with the carriers.

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  • TrixieJessTrixieJess member
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    Depending on how old the babies are, the floor will be the best place for them. My son could rock in his carrier at 4 months old. I never put it on a chair or table, always the floor and took him out from there. Ask the parents, but generally, this will be where the carriers are safest and will go.
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  • blabla89blabla89 member
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    huskypuppy14 said:

    One of your BM is not speaking to you? That seems like more of a problem. She'll have to speak to you eventually, no?

    Eventually, yes. FI and I have no involvement in the family feud, but at this point I won't be surprised if she throws a tantrum and refuses to come because FILs will be there.

    Thanks for the suggestions! I'll have one of the ushers take care of it.
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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    Will he even be carrying two carriers in, or bringing them in a stroller? I would have the ushers seat him on an outside end where there's room to push the stroller up beside him, or set both carriers down if he is carrying them. Maybe like second row, and leave the outside end seat beside him and in front of that one chairless? 
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    lolo883 said:

    Will he even be carrying two carriers in, or bringing them in a stroller? I would have the ushers seat him on an outside end where there's room to push the stroller up beside him, or set both carriers down if he is carrying them. Maybe like second row, and leave the outside end seat beside him and in front of that one chairless? 

    That's what I was thinking--will the babies be in a stroller? That seems easiest with two!
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