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Two bridal showers

Early into the wedding planning process, my fiance's cousin offered to host a bridal shower for me in their hometown (several hours away). I accepted the gracious offer and while my friends and family have been added to the guest list, all have indicated that due to the travel involved they will be unable to attend. In response to this, a family friend on my side of the guest list has offered to host a small local shower for the friends and family who couldn't make it out of state. I ran this by the initial host cousin who was completely fine with it and everything looks great. Now comes the guest lists. We always knew my friends and family wouldn't be able to make the out of state trip and the invitations were more of a formality, no one local was ever planning or expected to attend two showers. I'm writing up the guest list for the local shower and wondering if I should invite the out of state family, the ones who attended the first shower. Should I invite the cousin who's hosting the first shower? Would it be rude not to?
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Re: Two bridal showers

  • I wouldn't invite them. They already attended a shower and it may make them feel like the need to send along another gift.
  • spglsp said:

    Early into the wedding planning process, my fiance's cousin offered to host a bridal shower for me in their hometown (several hours away). I accepted the gracious offer and while my friends and family have been added to the guest list, all have indicated that due to the travel involved they will be unable to attend. In response to this, a family friend on my side of the guest list has offered to host a small local shower for the friends and family who couldn't make it out of state. I ran this by the initial host cousin who was completely fine with it and everything looks great. Now comes the guest lists. We always knew my friends and family wouldn't be able to make the out of state trip and the invitations were more of a formality, no one local was ever planning or expected to attend two showers. I'm writing up the guest list for the local shower and wondering if I should invite the out of state family, the ones who attended the first shower. Should I invite the cousin who's hosting the first shower? Would it be rude not to?

    No, it's rude to invite people to attend a 2nd shower if they have already attended one for you- it looks like a gift grab.

    "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."


  • No, I wouldn't invite people to more than one shower because it could look gift grabby.

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  • The only overlapping guests of a shower should be the moms and BP.     I wouldn't put any others on there. 
  • Thank you, ladies! I'll keep the lists separate
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