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Bridal Shower Guest List

ladyleegeladyleege member
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Hi everyone,

I wanted to get everyone's opinion on what to do about the guest list for a bridal shower. The room that was chosen can only accommodate a certain number of people, which means not everyone that is invited to the wedding will be invited to the shower. We are inviting my mothers first cousins, because we are close with them but are unable to invite their daughters, because of the room size. Is this ok? Opinions please.
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  • novella1186novella1186 member
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    Totally fine. I'm a fan of showers being smaller and more intimate, and only inviting people that the bride is closest to (who are also invited to the wedding, of course) since it's specifically a gift giving occasion. It's awkward-- to me-- to sit there and open gifts with people you hardly know. 
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  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    You are not required to invite all wedding guests to the shower, so you're in the clear.  However, anyone invited to the shower must be invited to the wedding. Does that make sense? 

    Generally showers are just close family and friends. I think my shower had 20-30 people or so. We had 175 guests at our wedding.
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  • mikenbergermikenberger member
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    ladyleege said:

    Hi everyone,


    I wanted to get everyone's opinion on what to do about the guest list for a bridal shower. The room that was chosen can only accommodate a certain number of people, which means not everyone that is invited to the wedding will be invited to the shower. We are inviting my mothers first cousins, because we are close with them but are unable to invite their daughters, because of the room size. Is this ok? Opinions please.
    It's totally okay. Or you'd have hundreds of women at your bridal party if you have a larger wedding. Bridal showers are not meant to be huge affairs.

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  • minttobemrsbminttobemrsb member
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    Completely fine. We are inviting about 120 people to the wedding. Of that, about 20 are invited to the shower. Large showers are awkward anyway because then you have 100+ people staring at you opening gifts. 
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  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    minttobemrsb said:

    Completely fine. We are inviting about 120 people to the wedding. Of that, about 20 are invited to the shower. Large showers are awkward anyway because then you have 100+ people staring at you opening gifts. 

    This and also large shower guest lists mean A LOT of time opening presents. 

    Ideally, a bride should spend a couple of minutes opening each gift, announcing who it's from, letting people oogle it and tell her how much she's going to use/love it, then thanking the giver verbally and moving on. Even if a bride was super efficient, if she had 40 guests, that'd be an hour and 20 minutes of opening gifts - no break.
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    A shower should be the bride's nearest and dearest. That varies for people, but 30+ guests is generally considered a large shower.

    No one should expect an invite to the shower, except maybe the MOB and the BMs. 
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