Paying for the groomsmen

lalapalooza2222 · April 2015

The other day I received a text asking if I would be paying for the groomsmens suits. Is this the norm. I have never heard of the bride and groom paying for suits for wedding party. Would love some input before I respond.

Thanks

mikenberger · April 2015

It is 100% up to you if you want to. It's not to be expected, however. Just like bridesmaid dresses. But you should take into consideration the budget of your groomsmen.

lalapalooza2222 · April 2015

mikenberger said:
It is 100% up to you if you want to. It's not to be expected, however. Just like bridesmaid dresses. But you should take into consideration the budget of your groomsmen.

Suits were kinda on the back burner. We still have time so it jut has not been a must do now priority. But we had ever intention of asking each groomsmen budget privately before choosing the suits. I guess I was just caught off guard by the bluntness of the question. Glad to know it is not mistake on my end to not pay.

labro · April 2015

lalapalooza2222 said:

mikenberger said:
It is 100% up to you if you want to. It's not to be expected, however. Just like bridesmaid dresses. But you should take into consideration the budget of your groomsmen.
Suits were kinda on the back burner. We still have time so it jut has not been a must do now priority. But we had ever intention of asking each groomsmen budget privately before choosing the suits. I guess I was just caught off guard by the bluntness of the question. Glad to know it is not mistake on my end to not pay.

Then this is a good opportunity to respond and say "We weren't planning on covering the rentals, however, I do need to know what your budget is so we can pick out a suit." You don't have to pay for the suit or the rental, but you should choose something that's no more expensive than the lowest budget, that way it's not beyond any one person's ability to pay for it.

[Deleted User] · April 2015

labro said:

lalapalooza2222 said:

mikenberger said:
It is 100% up to you if you want to. It's not to be expected, however. Just like bridesmaid dresses. But you should take into consideration the budget of your groomsmen.
Suits were kinda on the back burner. We still have time so it jut has not been a must do now priority. But we had ever intention of asking each groomsmen budget privately before choosing the suits. I guess I was just caught off guard by the bluntness of the question. Glad to know it is not mistake on my end to not pay.
Then this is a good opportunity to respond and say "We weren't planning on covering the rentals, however, I do need to know what your budget is so we can pick out a suit." You don't have to pay for the suit or the rental, but you should choose something that's no more expensive than the lowest budget, that way it's not beyond any one person's ability to pay for it.

Yes. Do this.

huskypuppy14 · April 2015

Are you a bride or a groom? If you're the bride, I'd find it weird that the groomsman are asking you. Why aren't they asking your FI?

southernbelle0915 · April 2015

As long as you get everyone's budget before selecting attire, you're not expected to pay for their attire. However, if the max budget was $100 and you chose a $200 suit, you should make up the difference. Same idea with BM dresses.

lalapalooza2222 · April 2015

huskypuppy14 said:
Are you a bride or a groom? If you're the bride, I'd find it weird that the groomsman are asking you. Why aren't they asking your FI?

I am the bride. I am assuming he asked me because I am easier to reach then my fi. He works a hectic schedule. But I most def am going to have my fi reach out to his groomsmen and ask budget.

Liatris2010 · April 2015

It was very forward of him to ask if you were paying. Generally, the wedding party is expected to pay for their own attire after they have provided their budget. If you are doing suits, I would suggest just giving the GM a color and letting them choose their own. This was they can wear something they already own and you don't have to worry about selecting something that fits everyone's budget.

Casadena · April 2015

Definitely don't have to. I paid for my BM dresses because I wanted to/i hate paying for a dress when I'm a BM. We had the guys purchase reasonably priced suits at Jos. A Banks during one of their buy one get 3 free deals, but we bought them all new white shirts and the ties we wanted them to wear because those were very specific. I didn't feel bad about having the guys pay for a suit because they can wear it for so many other things (it's navy blue) whereas a BM dress is likely not going to be worn again.

Dreamergirl8812 · April 2015

Are you asking or requiring the groomsmen to stay in the "groomsmen's suites" the night before or the night of your wedding?

lalapalooza2222 · April 2015

Dreamergirl8812 said:
Are you asking or requiring the groomsmen to stay in the "groomsmen's suites" the night before or the night of your wedding?

I'am not to sure what you mean here.?

lovegood90 · April 2015

lalapalooza2222 said:

Dreamergirl8812 said:
Are you asking or requiring the groomsmen to stay in the "groomsmen's suites" the night before or the night of your wedding?

I'am not to sure what you mean here.?

I'm gonna guess she misred "suits" as "suites."

Dreamergirl8812 · April 2015

lovegood90 said:

lalapalooza2222 said:

Dreamergirl8812 said:
Are you asking or requiring the groomsmen to stay in the "groomsmen's suites" the night before or the night of your wedding?

I'am not to sure what you mean here.?
I'm gonna guess she misred "suits" as "suites."

Wow, I'm an idiot. Carry on OP.

[Deleted User] · April 2015

We did pay for a portion of our guys tuxes. My husband is a really big guy and not all styles of tuxes looked good on him. The one that he settled on was more then what worked for the budget of our groomsmen so we covered the difference and a little extra. Yes, our GM could have worn something slightly different then him, but the best nman was of similar size and we ran into the same size/style issues for him so we just went with the slightly more expensive one that looked good on everyone and budgeted to pay the difference for the guys.

Also, I was able to find all of my girls dresses on ebay for $40 and under, I just bought them all their dresses & had them dry cleaned. It was kind of like, we did something for the guys & so we wanted to do something to help all the girls out too (I did ask before buying the dresses if they were ok with previously worn dresses if I got them dry cleaned).

aphrodite0869 · April 2015

We asked both our Groomsmen and Bridesmaids what their budgets looked like. The Groomsmen didn't care and they all went together and picked out a suit together with the FI to see what they all liked and all could afford. If you do not plan on paying for them, just let them know you hadn't planned on doing that but what is too much for them. Even telling them you aren't trying to break the bank yourself with a suit is a good idea so they don't feel uncomfortable talking to you about budget. Or tell them they can rent if they don't want to buy one if that is what you are doing. Renting can be a lot cheaper. Your FI and his groomsmen can go together and pick something out that looks good on everyone and is budget friendly.

notdoingitbythebook · April 2015

The men on both sides of our party are wearing suits they already own, could this be an option? We'll be purchasing shirts, ties, squares and super hero socks for the guys since it's something specific to the event. I think it's a lot to ask people to buy clothes for one day even if it's something like a suit that they could wear again. I would have bought the dresses for the women if we had them... thankfully we don't. But that was a priority since I think it's wrong to force people to buy something chosen by someone else for a specific event and look.

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