I've been pondering a discussion I need to have with my husband and was wondering what your thoughts on the topic were. Some background... my husband is a very open person. There are very few things that he finds deeply personal and doesn't share with a lot of people, but many things that most people find somewhat personal and private he is an open book about. That's cool. I really like that he is that comfortable with himself and the things in his life. He's also genuinely curious, which leads to some very personal questions being asked sometimes.
However, he sometimes seems to forget that other people are not that comfortable with these things. He has, on a few occasions, shared private information about me with people without checking with me about it first. I've discussed this with him and he's gotten better about it. However, when I was out for some girl time with a mutual friend of ours last night, she mentioned that he had previously asked her and her S.O. some fairly personal questions that kind of took them aback. They are pretty much open books too, so they weren't offended by it, but they were kind of surprised. She then said he had asked similar things to another couple we are friends with, and they are more private. It kind of freaked them out a little... at least enough that they mentioned it to her. No offense was meant or taken, but it made them a little uncomfortable and they weren't sure how to tell him that. (They didn't ask her to mention this to me, it just came up in the conversation we were having.)
I think I need to talk to him about this and let him know that he should try to be more sensitive to other people's boundaries and comfort levels about certain topics of discussion. He doesn't intend to be making people uncomfortable and I don't think he realizes that he did. But I'm not quite sure how to go about having this conversation. Thoughts? Suggestions?
