So, when I got engaged, I didn't get the reaction from my family that I was hoping for. I think that every girl (and guy, perhaps) dreams of that moment -- jumping up and down with your sister, tears from your mom, whatever. Instead, I just got a "that's pretty". And . . it hurt.
Here's the thing: My family is 100% supportive.They love my fiancee. When I moved in with her three years ago they never had a problem. They invite her to family things, they think it's great when we talk about our future children, they get her birthday/Christmas gifts . . I mean, they treat her like their own.
So, you can imagine my confusion when they had no reaction really. I mean, maybe they just saw the engagement coming and weren't surprised.
Her family, on the other hand, had maybe even less of a reaction. This will be her second marriage. Her first wasn't legal (and this one will be). We are both in our 20's, but her "marriage" ended 6/7 years ago. They literally just took her ex's picture of their mantel a year ago. (Mine has yet to be put up and it's been 4 years).
Her family wants us just to go what we need to in a courthouse in another state (since legalization hasn't happened in our home state yet) . . and then come home and basically have a giant picnic at her grandpa's house.
This isn't what I want. . and obviously I will do what I want to do in the end . . but this hurts. It feels like they don't want to be a part of the big day. Like, it's just a little thing.
But, honestly . . now I'm torn. We work retail and don't make too much money so I don't know whether I should just do the reception instead.
Or maybe just skip it and spend more time/money on our honeymoon.