...I don't want them to be a thing!
I'm in a wedding a month after mine. Yes. I understand that everybody gets one day. I get one day. She gets one day. Woo. One day. So I am getting married on 5/1. I'll be off work 4/29-5/15 ALL UNPAID. She decided that she wants a weekend resort from Thursday PM-Saturday PM (my first full week back at work after being gone 12.5 days) then a bar crawl back in our hometown on Saturday PM. It'll take 4hrs Thursday to get to this cabin, then 4hrs back. AND it's Memorial Day weekend. So chances are the lake will be packed and the roads as well. I said, combined with my time off unpaid, then working 3.5 days, then being off another 1.5 days unpaid, then a holiday on Monday (which is also unpaid) I couldn't take 15.5 days unpaid in one month. So I opted out of it- said I would be more than happy to help facilitate the bar crawl here in town. Another bridesmaid also opted out of it as well as she's located on the East coast and we are in the Midwest. So that leaves the bride, MOH and the bride's underage sister. The Bride got pissed, as did the MOH "Well, we can't have a bachelorette with 3 people." so the MOH said "I'll have to talk with the Bride to see what she wants to do."
She gets back to me "The bride has decided she wants to go to (another lake 3hrs away) the following weekend.". Friday-Sunday and forgoing the bar crawl in town. The long distance bridesmaid immediately bows out, leaving me to tell the MOH "NO." again. Why are these a thing? Fucking Lifetime and WE and those stupid made for TV movies showing women jet setting to Vegas or whatever for a Bachelorette party. I don't want to spend an entire weekend away after being gone for my wedding/honeymoon and how busy I've been with 2 jobs, social life, wedding planning etc. And then I'm essentially tying up every single weekend for five weeks between my wedding/honeymoon and her wedding.
I just don't know what to do. I feel awful not going to her bachelorette since she did such an amazing job on mine. But I just know I need to be able to crash at some point after everything is said and done. I'm not a person that likes to go go go for weeks on end. And don't get me started on her planning her own Bachelorette party. If I don't go to her bachelorette, I know I'm going to get the guilt trip from Hell and she's going to attempt to make my life miserable. She's not a terrible person, but wedding planning has brought out quite the Bridezilla side of her.