I will keep this as brief as possible. I always think more background is helpful, but it's probably not as helpful as I think.
- Remember (a long time ago) how DC kept freaking out because DS wasn't sitting and stuff, and I was like "Yeah, that's how DD was, NBD?" And then they threw around things like "poor muscle tone" and I freaked out, only to come on here and call the pedi and have everyone (nicely) tell me I was overreacting?
- I just got an email from the principal at DC requesting "a conference to discuss [DS]'s development" with DH, me, DS's lead teacher, and the curriculum coordinator (who was also the lead teacher in Infant 1 who brought up poor muscle tone)
- This is not the usual "Hey, parents, it's conference time again, click the link to sign up for your slot." It was specifically to DH and me about DS.
- <insert freakout here>
- But I just did his 18 mo. ASQ (he was 18 mo. last Tuesday, and I did the ASQ the next day) and he wasn't even in the gray area for any of the categories. He scored higher on some areas than others, but didn't have any scores at or near the cutoff.
- After the above freakout, I Googled "18 month milestones," and he's doing all of this. Literally, everything except the spoon--he'll start with the spoon, but after a couple of bites switches back to fingers.
So, what gives? Have they just had it in their heads that he's behind ever since he wasn't sitting by 6 mo., and it's coloring how they see his development? Are DH and I in some kind of crazy denial? (I explored the latter pretty thoroughly last time, and the answer was a genuine no. But I can't be truly objective.) His pedi thinks he's doing great. Independent questionnaires/websites/etc. seem to suggest he's fine.
There is a kid who was born the day before he was who just moved up to Toddler 2, and we haven't gotten a date to move DS up yet. But I wasn't too surprised, because we've been at this DC since DD was 2, and things tend to get backed up as you approach the end of the school year. Then school is out, their current crop of KG and TK move to summer camp, pre-K starts moving up to fill the empty TK slots, and it ripples down through the entire school.
The only thing I can think of is that maybe DS is toward the bottom of his class, but fine compared to the general toddler population. Which is exactly what happened with sitting--everyone was sitting but him, but he was still within the "official" milestone chart. I mean, he runs, he draws with crayons, he loves games, he says more words than I can count. I can't really see an issue, but maybe I'm just too close.
WDWWT?
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