Hello. I am getting married in July and my mother and my maid of honor want to throw me a bridal shower. Now my fiancé is very shy and we agreed to have a small ceremony (25 people) with just our parents and grandparents at 4PM in the evening and then following at 6PM we will have a reception with all of our friends and family (122 people). The invitations state that we will be married in a private ceremony but we would like them to celebrate with us afterwards at our reception. Now my question is... is it rude to invite all the women who are invited to the reception to the bridal shower as well? They understand that it is a private ceremony but I have some people telling me that it is rude to invite them to the bridal shower and not the actual ceremony. Please help!