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Do I have to list the man first on the invitation?

tkonen90tkonen90 member
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I know it is common etiquette to name the man first when addressing wedding invitations. However, what if I'm inviting a girlfriend of mine, plus her boyfriend whom she lives with? I don't want to put "Girlfriend's name and guest" because I know her boyfriend's name and want him to feel welcome. But I feel weird listing his name first, because, honestly, if it weren't for her, I wouldn't be inviting him. So I feel like she deserves being listed first on the invitation...... thoughts?
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    themuffinman16themuffinman16 member
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    I did it differently with my invitations. I addressed it to the person I knew better and their significant other, unless I knew they were more traditional. I think my friends preferred it.
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    PamBeesly524PamBeesly524 member
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    themuffinman16 said:

    I did it differently with my invitations. I addressed it to the person I knew better and their significant other, unless I knew they were more traditional. I think my friends preferred it.

    I did the same. It just made more sense to me.
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    [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    And you would never put "and guest" if you know the guy's name.

    Ms. Susan Smith
    Mr. Tom Jones
    123 Main St
    Anytown, ST 00010

    Where 123 Main street is your girlfriend's address.
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    flutteringinflflutteringinfl member
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    themuffinman16 said:

    I did it differently with my invitations. I addressed it to the person I knew better and their significant other, unless I knew they were more traditional. I think my friends preferred it.

    I did this too.
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    futuremrshpfuturemrshp member
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    Same here.  I did the opposite when addressing FI's guests if they weren't married--- put the guy first and then the girlfriend next.  Just depended on who we knew better.
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