I'm a 42 year old first time bride

Re: I'm a 42 year old first time bride

• pinkcow13 member

  

  April 2015

  Hi! Congrats on your upcoming wedding

  
  

  How about some gift cards to their favorite restaurant? Do you know what Cologne they like? Or maybe you can get them a really nice watch.

                               

  

  
  

   

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  April 2015

  mellartime said:

  Hi!  I am a 42 year old first time bride.  My groom is 44 and also his first time as a groom.  We have been together 15 years.  Our wedding is in 2 weeks.  His parents are both deceased, and I have a step mother and step father.  I moved out and have taken care of myself since I was 14 years old, never asked for help, and pretty much grew up on my own.  We are paying for the whole wedding ourselves and do not expect gifts.  

  My trouble is for my dad and step dad, I would like to get them something as a gift, but no idea what.  Neither drink, or camp, or play poker or really go out much or are into any sports.  I love them, but have never felt really close to them since I was on my own at a young age.  I don't have those tender moments of "daddy's little girl" or any of that, so the gifts I look up online don't cut it for me.  It's close to my wedding day and I'm still at a loss.  For my mom and step mom I got some pretty necklaces, I'm lost on the men though!  Any ideas?  Sorry not a lot of info to go be.  Any help is appreciated

  Ask their wives?  Maybe they're really into a particular author right now, or singer, or have always wanted to try that expensive restaurant downtown.  Maybe an Omaha Steaks delivery or deep dish Chicago style pizza from Lou Malnati's.

  
  

  Or just write them a really nice letter thanking them for being in your life and loving you.  And you look forward to many more years of being father and daughter.

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• littlepep member

  

  April 2015

  adk19 said:

  Hi!  I am a 42 year old first time bride.  My groom is 44 and also his first time as a groom.  We have been together 15 years.  Our wedding is in 2 weeks.  His parents are both deceased, and I have a step mother and step father.  I moved out and have taken care of myself since I was 14 years old, never asked for help, and pretty much grew up on my own.  We are paying for the whole wedding ourselves and do not expect gifts.  

  My trouble is for my dad and step dad, I would like to get them something as a gift, but no idea what.  Neither drink, or camp, or play poker or really go out much or are into any sports.  I love them, but have never felt really close to them since I was on my own at a young age.  I don't have those tender moments of "daddy's little girl" or any of that, so the gifts I look up online don't cut it for me.  It's close to my wedding day and I'm still at a loss.  For my mom and step mom I got some pretty necklaces, I'm lost on the men though!  Any ideas?  Sorry not a lot of info to go be.  Any help is appreciated

  Ask their wives?  Maybe they're really into a particular author right now, or singer, or have always wanted to try that expensive restaurant downtown.  Maybe an Omaha Steaks delivery or deep dish Chicago style pizza from Lou Malnati's.

  
  

  Or just write them a really nice letter thanking them for being in your life and loving you.  And you look forward to many more years of being father and daughter.

  
  
  MMM steaks. I love food so I like that idea or a restaurant gift card. 

  

  
  

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• southernbelle0915 mod

  

  April 2015

  Why are you getting them a gift? I wouldn't force it if you can't think of anything.

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• drunkenwitch member

  

  April 2015

  I have a really hard time shopping for my dad and stepdad as well.  So what I have started doing is what I call "the basket of nom".  I put together a collection of delicious, local food.  I'm from Seattle so I go down to the Pike Place Market and grab smoked salmon, local cheese, local crackers, some seasonal fruit, chocolates, local nuts...whatever catches my eye.  Then I throw in a bottle of wine.  HUGE HIT!

  
  

  If you want to go a step extra, toss in a DVD you think they would enjoy, they get snacks and a show.  Who doesn't love that?

  
  

  I did this for both sets of parents this year for Christmas, they still rave about it. 

  

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• lc07 member

  

  April 2015

  What do you buy them for the holiday season or their birthdays? If you don't buy them gifts then, why do you want to buy them a gift for this occasion? If you have your heart set on getting them a gift, which is nice, can you tell us things they like as opposed to things they don't like?

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• yellowdaisies84 member

  

  April 2015 edited April 2015

  What about a bottle of liquor and a handwritten card? That's what we did for my husband's step-dad. We gave him a bottle of scotch. However, he and his wife paid the ENTIRE alcohol bill for our wedding plus generously tipped the staff and paid for our rehearsal dinner AND flew in internationally. Plus, he's always been super supportive of us. We had things to thank him for. 

  "It's always better when we're together." -Jack Johnson

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• badbnagdway member

  

  April 2015

  It's nice that you want to get them something but it sounds unnecessary, especially if they are not helping with the wedding at all and you don't feel close to them. When I say helping -- I don't mean only financially. Someone can help in a lot of different ways. Since a gift would be a thank you, what are you thanking them for?

  
  

  If it's something you really want to do, I like the idea of a meat of the month or a favorite cologne. I've also seen very nice shave kits from Sephora and Birchbox. Maybe a nice pair of cuff links? 

  
  

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• thisismynickname2 member

  

  April 2015

  Congrats!

  
  

  I'm a fan of tickets to things. Something parents have wanted to do but it's normally not in the discretionary budget: the symphony, for example.  Recently I gave my parents a gift certificate to the local playhouse so they could attend any show there. 

  
  

  At our age, parents don't need more "stuff." Consumables and experiences always work. 

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