My fiance and I are both recent college grads, so many of our friends are in the "low income part-time job high student loans" subsection of the population. Several of those live out of state (8-9 hour drive to get to the wedding), and my fiance is all worried that our inviting these friends will be too much of a financial burden - so he wants to include a sort of disclaimer with their invites about how we'd love to have them, but if it's too long a trip or too expensive or puts them out unduly, they really shouldn't feel like they HAVE to come. I think that's a terrible idea, because that disclaimer sounds to me like you're sending invites to people that you don't actually want to show up. And that's not true at all!
I feel like people will say yes or no as they're able to a normal invite, and if they say no, we move on with our lives, everyone secure in the knowledge that of course we'd love to see them but it's really NBD. He thinks they'll feel pressured to come if we send them an invite with no disclaimer, and that they'll feel like we think they're bad friends if they can't come. Are one or both of us crazy here? It's swiftly becoming a Thing.