What is it about weddings that gives brides (or grooms) the impression that they can control other people's bodies? A few weeks ago, one of Fi's GM asked me if he should shave the beard he's been growing for years. My sister wanted to make sure I was okay with her giant back tattoo showing (yeah, pretty sure that piece makes up 10% of your skin-- I wouldn't recognize you without it). And just now, one of my BMs texted me to ask for permission to dye her hair. I told her to go crazy and I love her no matter what she looks like. Then this BM told me that she purposely chose her dress to hide her back tattoo because she "doesn't want to ruin any pics!"
So to all BP members, past, present, or future: your body is yours. Nothing about the fact that somebody you love is getting married gives that person any right to control your body. The bride or groom probably loves you exactly because you are the kind of person who would have a full back tattoo with wings and roses, or pink hair, or a hipster beard. Any friend worth their salt only cares that you are comfortable and happy. And any friend who tells you to change a single thing about your body for the sake of their wedding pictures is a pretty terrible person.
The BM in question is dying one side of her (currently platinum blonde) hair in rainbow colors. I can't wait to see it.
"I'm not a rude bitch. I'm ten rude bitches in a large coat."