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Vent: Guest Drama, Discovering Awkwardness, and a bonus minor pity party
'Morning! Or afternoon, depending where I find you on this fine day?
When invitation time came, FH and I were collecting addresses. We made a night of it, got a bottle of wine and split the list up. It was fun, until I came across a couple, mutual friends of ours. Both FH and I are more.. in touch...I guess you'd say, with "Rob". His wife "Sue" is one that will suddenly drop contact with the world, and no one quite understands why. Anyways, I noticed a while back, Sue too me off all forms of social media. No big deal, this happens often, so I carry on with life. When it came time to send invitations, Sue adds me back, so I decide to be proactive and ask her for their address.
"Rob's address is still XYZ Street in Citytown, but I currently don't have an address."
Oh shit. I found out about a separation by inviting them to a wedding. This is awkward. What do I even say? I kind of left it in her court to get me the address when she can, and stepped away from the invites thing for a few minutes.
On another page, I have adult guests acting stupid. "Are you inviting so and so?" "I'm not coming if THEY are invited!" "Do I have to sit with *insert name here* because we are having ISSUES."
Oyyy. Really? I'm trying to do my best to diffuse, but seriously, can't you deal with some of this stuff on your own?
Bonus pity party: My car is being a little bitch and demanding repairs at the most inconvenient time. Come on, car. I have vendors to visit and money to give them... Why do you have to do this now?
I know. Life doesn't stop because we are planning a wedding. But now that I've had my little internet rant, I feel better. Time to carry on!
When invitation time came, FH and I were collecting addresses. We made a night of it, got a bottle of wine and split the list up. It was fun, until I came across a couple, mutual friends of ours. Both FH and I are more.. in touch...I guess you'd say, with "Rob". His wife "Sue" is one that will suddenly drop contact with the world, and no one quite understands why. Anyways, I noticed a while back, Sue too me off all forms of social media. No big deal, this happens often, so I carry on with life. When it came time to send invitations, Sue adds me back, so I decide to be proactive and ask her for their address.
"Rob's address is still XYZ Street in Citytown, but I currently don't have an address."
Oh shit. I found out about a separation by inviting them to a wedding. This is awkward. What do I even say? I kind of left it in her court to get me the address when she can, and stepped away from the invites thing for a few minutes.
On another page, I have adult guests acting stupid. "Are you inviting so and so?" "I'm not coming if THEY are invited!" "Do I have to sit with *insert name here* because we are having ISSUES."
Oyyy. Really? I'm trying to do my best to diffuse, but seriously, can't you deal with some of this stuff on your own?
Bonus pity party: My car is being a little bitch and demanding repairs at the most inconvenient time. Come on, car. I have vendors to visit and money to give them... Why do you have to do this now?
I know. Life doesn't stop because we are planning a wedding. But now that I've had my little internet rant, I feel better. Time to carry on!
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Re: Vent: Guest Drama, Discovering Awkwardness, and a bonus minor pity party
When I worked in hotels and ran weddings for the hotel, I once called one of my couples WHILE they were breaking up. I was calling to talk menu, and she had to tell me she thought they were breaking up.... talk about awkward. Why she even answered the phone during such a crazy sad conversation, I still don't understand!
I recently ran into a friend of a friend and asked her how her husband was doing. And she said, "I'm getting divorced!". Whoops. I felt so bad.
As for the adults, my FI just had to tell his BFF that we're inviting his ex-gf to the wedding (BFF's ex), and he threw a bitch fit, saying he came first, that he wouldn't go if she did, blah blah. FI shut that shit down with "First of all, blueyedkat comes first! She likes ex, we get along with ex, and we both want her there. If you can't get along and be an adult, that's not our problem, and we will deal with it if you make it a problem. You're my BFF, and we want you at our wedding, but you need to be okay with this." BAM!!! I was celebrating on the inside (I'm not really a fan of FI's BFF). So, that's how we deal with people, we make them realize they're adults, and that they're guests. Being a guest is a privilege, which can be taken away. Of course, this is all expressed politely.
As for the rest, I'm sorry all these people are being so immature. I hope you can get it all cleared up!
Fortunately one of my other uncles received the invitation just before he decided to renounce most of his worldly possessions and became a drifter...
--William Shakespeare (Sonnet 25)