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Knottie38213341 said:My fiancé told me last night that he had heard somewhere that the wedding dress is often more to impress other women attending the wedding and not so much the groom/other men. I think this is true to some degree- thoughts?
My fiancé told me last night that he had heard somewhere that the wedding dress is often more to impress other women attending the wedding and not so much the groom/other men. I think this is true to some degree- thoughts?
I think he's right. Blah blah blah, we choose things for ourselves. Sure we do, consciously. Unconsciously, not everyone's that confident.
lachattefatale said:I know that I care about 0% what any man besides my fiance thinks of how I dress or do my hair or apply my makeup. And I only care about 15% what he thinks, because he thinks I'm beautiful in sweats ugly-crying at made-for-TV movies. So clearly he loves me and also maybe he needs his eyes checked.The rest of how I decide to dress is a mix of how much time I have, how much effort I want to expend, what I want to look like, and what other women will think. Will my friends be impressed if I get manage to do winged eyeliner and get both eyes perfectly symmetrical? Maybe! This isn't restricted to wedding gowns, it's just all the time, and it's not something I ever think about until someone asks a question like this. I have had friends apologize to me for showing up to coffee dates in sweats; I absolutely did not mind even a little bit, but clearly she cared what I thought.Anyway. Yes. We choose our wedding gowns according to what makes us feel beautiful, and an unconscious part of that is what other women will think of us wearing it.Edit: If we did not care what other women thought of our wedding gowns, we would not ask strange women on the internet to answer polls about which dress looks better. But we do.
I chose my dress because I liked it and because I knew that my FH would like it. I honestly do not care what my guests or any other woman thinks about it. I like it, my FH will like it and that's all that matters.
That said, I know there are people who do dress to impress others. So I'd have to say that the statement is true if the qualifier that some people do it, not all people.
Maggie0829 said:What?When I was a bride the only person I was trying to 'impress' with my dress was my H.
climbingwife said:Um, seriously? When I buy anything, including my wedding dress, it's because I like the way it looks on me. I don't need to impress or show off to anyone. But you know, I'm a confident woman. And I think saying that women only dress to show off to other women is pretty fucking sexist and I don't like it.