We are planning on tying our nuptials into a family vacation with our children. The only people that we've officially announced our plan to is his sister and I've mentioned it to my mom. It's not a true elopement because there's no reason to keep it a secret, but as long as our kids are there we're pretty indifferent about who else attends, but we do want immediate family to know it's ok if they would like to join us. The way I put it to my mom is "This is what we're doing. We'd love to have our family with us, but we understand if people can't make it". That said I still feel it's proper to send paper invites to our immediate family, but how do you word it so they don't feel as though it's an obligation. Maybe just a wedding announcement with the date, then leave it us to them to contact us for more specific information? Thoughts, ideas, suggestions!?