advice already received, thank u

Re: advice already received, thank u

• thestaircase member

  

  April 2015 edited June 2015

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• theartistformerlyknownas member

  

  April 2015

  We are not therapists.

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• lyndausvi mod

  

  April 2015

  Cliff notes.

  
  

  
  

  Nevermind, I think Lolo summed it up well

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  

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• ashley8918 member

  

  April 2015 edited April 2015

  You cannot be serious with this shit.

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• hellosweetie1015 member

  

  April 2015

  I think you need to work out your feelings with a professional. I try very hard not to recommend therapy to everyone always every time, but I do think that it may be of some help to you. Talk to your insurance provider, if you have health insurance. I believe the ACA (Obamacare) outlined what insurers have to cover regarding mental health. My policy covers all but a $25 copay per session, with no limit on sessions. If you don't have insurance, speak to someone with the health department in your county. Many, if not all, county health departments have a mental health component, and they can likely help you. Therapy doesn't have to cost thousands of dollars, and I think you could benefit from it.

  

  
  

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• thestaircase member

  

  April 2015 edited June 2015

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• esstee33 member

  

  April 2015 edited July 2015

  thestairs said:

  I'm sorry, I am not expecting anyone here to be therapists.
  I guess I just need to vent; and this is the "Chit Chat" section, so I hope I am not violating any Forum rule for post this here.
  I just want to get it off my chest, and it easier for me to speak out all my feelings here on the internet where nobody know each others.
  I apologize if I caused any inconvenient from this post here in the 'Chit Chat' section.
  I was wondering if anyone here have a bad childhood with their mother, or went through something similiar in their childhood, they can share their experience, that's all.
  

  This is the Chit Chat board on a wedding planning forum, with a group of posters who already have a rapport with one another for the most part. This post has nothing to do with wedding planning, and you're not really a member of the community, so it's hella weird to just walk into a random forum and just lay out all your personal problems and expect... whatever it is you're expecting. Help? Similar stories? Yeah, lots of people have fucked up relationships with their mothers, but probably very few want to tell a stranger on the internet all about them. 

  
  

  As Lolo rightly said, we're not therapists. You really need to do whatever is necessary to be able to seek therapy in real life. 

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• larrygaga member

  

  April 2015 edited April 2015

  I'm a therapist and I know personally not everyone who needs one can get one. I will give you some advice, but that's it. 

  
  

  It's cool that you vent here, we all do. You might want to trim it down a bit! I'm surprised even I read that much! Nobody can help you like a professional that you see in person, though. If you just want to write and get things off your chest, you should keep a blog or a journal. Depending on if you want other people to read it or not.
  

  
  

  Regardless, it seems to me that you are normal. It's often hard for survivors of abuse to accept unconditional love like your husband is giving you. Also, your feelings aren't necessarily tied to your childhood! Some people just naturally enjoy their independence. Just because you are married doesn't mean you have to lose your independence. Go places alone that you would normally go with other people, or try eating alone. Take up a small hobby that is only yours to have. If you begin a blog/journal you might feel as thought you have more things that are only your own.

  
  

  If you have children, soon you may feel like you have even less "me" time. It's important to establish your "me" time and keep it throughout your life. It could even be a hot 20 minute shower, a jog everyday, reading before bed, mediation. 

  
  

  Google "community mental health" followed by your state. You might be eligible for free or reduced cost therapy. There are all sorts of therapies out there, from painting to play to talk therapy. Start your research and start exploring different things until you find something that works for you!

  
  

  Good luck. 

  
  

  
  

  
  

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