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How to invite your minister to your wedding

We have already had three pre-wedding counseling sessions with our minister who will be marrying us at our church and now we are realizing we have not invited he and his wife to the rehearsal dinner or wedding reception. What is the best way to go about this and should we invite him to both the rehearsal dinner and reception or only one-and if only one which do we invite him to? Thanks!

Re: How to invite your minister to your wedding

  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Send them a wedding invitation, just like with your other guests, for the reception, and invite them to the rehearsal dinner using the same means that you are using to invite your other rehearsal dinner guests. If you are inviting your rehearsal dinner guests by a formal written invitation, do that; if you are using an informal written invitation, word-of-mouth, or electronic means, do that.
  • We're inviting our officiant to both.  We thought it would be awkward to not invite him to the rehearsal dinner since he'll be at the rehearsal.  In our situation though we're being married by a guy I went to college with so we know him outside of the whole church / wedding situation. 

    We haven't actually decided how we're inviting people to the rehearsal dinner.  We're calling everyone to tell them the timing for the rehearsal once it's figured out so we'll probably just let them know during that conversation that the rehearsal dinner is immediately following.

    Then we're sending our officiant an invitation just like everyone else.
  • We sent our officiant and his wife an invitation. They stayed for the reception but declined the rehearsal dinner.
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  • I would invite him to both. Ours declined both but we would have been happy to host him and his wife. Send invites like you do everyone else.
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  • If the minister is leading/attending the rehearsal then you absolutely should invite him to the dinner, and you should include his wife as well. It's also nice to invite them to the wedding reception. Send them the invitations as you would to all your other guests.




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  • SP29SP29 member
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    We invited our officiant and his wife to both. Rehearsal dinner was via e-mail, wedding via invitation (I then emailed him for his mailing address). 

    They declined the reception but attended the rehearsal dinner. 
  • edited May 2015
    Agree with PPs, send an invite however you're sending the rest out. We're not church members, but we're doing three counseling sessions with him and we're paying a fee to use the church/have him officiate/programs, but we would have really liked to have him and his wife there. We didn't have his address, so I emailed (how we normally communicate about appointments) him to ask for it, and he declined both the RD and the reception.
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