WR: Hair & Makeup vent/question

Re: WR: Hair & Makeup vent/question

• bethsmiles member

  

  May 2015

  I would voice your concerns to her. Maybe she would look for another person could assist her that day if she knew you prefer it. I don't know why you only hinted at wanting the assistant too and didn't just state that. Or you could hire someone else to do make-up and have her only do hair.

  
  

  Could you get ready at the venue? Getting ready somewhere that's nearly an hour away (guessing by your timeline) seems like a pain with an already tight schedule.

  
  

  
  

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• Swazzle member

  

  May 2015

  I would be concerned mainly because while she's working on one person, the other 5 are just going to be sitting around, doing nothing but wasting time. If there was an assistant, they could at least be getting their hair set. I would tell her that you'd feel much more comfortable if she had someone else with her. If she gets backed up on one person, she'll be delayed for everyone else and won't have any help. 

  
  

  I had a makeup person and a separate hair person. They both arrived around 8:30 and got started by 9. We had to be ready by 2 to drive the 30 minutes to my venue which is where I got dressed. We did our first look at 4 and our ceremony began at 6. So my day was planned out pretty similarly to yours. I booked them to do me, my 4 BMs, my mom, and my grandmom, and then because there was a little time at the end they both did some very basic (quick makeup and a blow out) for my 3 aunts. Hair was pretty fast for everyone because only 2 of us had up-dos vs blow outs. 

  
  
  

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• Dignity100 member

  

  May 2015

  For my wedding - I had 2 girls come.  My wedding was at 2:30, the limo picked us up at 2:00.  I told the girls I wanted them to be done around 1:15 to give us time to get dressed and for anything last minute (which they were fine with).  They came at 10:30 - one girl worked only on my hair and makeup while the other girl did hair for my MOH and her daughter.  I will say - my hair held all day, they gave me touch-ups for my makeup but it stayed pretty well all day too and I didn't use the touch-ups.
  
  You have every right to be concerned!  It's you're wedding.  Voice your concern, if she doesn't have an assistant or another person she can bring, does she have any other recommendations on anybody you can reach out to?
  

  
  
  
  

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• lavenderfields13 member

  

  May 2015

  That's what I was thinking- everyone is just sitting around. I should have been more adamant about the assistant to begin with- she just kept saying "let me figure out the timeline and I'll let you know if I need an assistant". I'm always afraid of being too pushy. 

  
  

  Can anyone help me word how I should bring this up to her? She already told me her assistant is unavailable so she has to bump up the MOG appt. But I mean..she works in the industry- she has to have someone else that she could work with right?? It is a long distance that she's travelling to us so I don't know if no one else she works with even wants to make the trek. 

  
  

  I feel like I screwed myself over here by not being more direct and now it would most likely be impossible to find anyone else since it's so close. 

   

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Swazzle member

  

  May 2015

  Don't be afraid of being too pushy! It's your wedding day and you're paying this woman for her services, you have every right to be happy with what you're getting. 

  
  

  I would say something along the lines of: 

  
  

  Hi MOA/Hair lady, 

  
  

  I would feel much more comfortable and less stressed about my wedding day if you could bring an assistant with you. I understand that this would be an added cost. Please let me know what can be done.

  
  

  Thanks,

  lavender

  
  
  

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• speakeasy14 member

  

  May 2015

  Tell her that you need everyone finished and dressed by 3:00pm, and with the time constraint you would like her to have an assistant. With that timeline there is no room for error.  Does she work alone or at a business?

  
  

  If she cannot find someone else, do you have any friends who are cosmetologists?  For my sister's wedding we just asked around on facebook if anyone was available.  A girl I grew up with said she would do everyone's hair and makeup and brought one of her coworkers with her.  

  

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• lavenderfields13 member

  

  May 2015

  She was working at Sephora - that's how I met her- I went there to get my makeup done for my engagement photos. And she gave me her card for her own side thing she does. I believe she has only one girl who is her regular assistant and she's not free. 

  
  

  I think I'm going to let her know I'm concerned about her having no break considering the timeline. My mom just reminded me that a lot of times at salons they're booked back to back with no break...but I'm going to have people just sitting around all done up at 10am and waiting. 

  
  

  My aunt (MOH) does do hair - but she does hair cuts and color- NOT up dos so the most she could help with is curling hair and stuff like that. She said she would jump in and help do that if needed but I'm paying someone else to do all that.

  
  

  I'm just trying to breathe and tell myself it will all be OK. I always get myself all worked up over everything. 

   

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• phira member

  

  May 2015

  Definitely get in touch and let her know your concerns:

  
  

  - That the lack of a break from 8:15 to 3:30pm will be an issue because it leaves no room to run late.

  - Six hours is a long time for your wedding party (and you!) to have to plan to be around.

  - You actually would prefer to be done by 3:00pm at the latest, preferably 2:30pm, so this timeline does not actually work for your wedding day.

  
  

  Ask her what she thinks and propose some solutions. Her assistant is not available: is there anyone else she's worked with before (maybe a coworker at Sephora) who could come with her?

  
  

  One other solution (that you will need to get on quickly but that is not impossible!) is that you find another professional to come and do hair while this person does make-up. Yes, it will cost more. But this is a throw-money-at-the-problem kind of problem.

  
  

  Regarding the early start and how long hair/make-up will last: wedding day hair and make-up (for you and your wedding party) should last all day. My hair was done at 8:00am and my make-up was done at 10:30am, and everything lasted (through happy tears and dancing) until we got to the hotel around 10:00pm after the reception. That's not to say that your worries are irrelevant or misplaced, but that early hair and make-up is normal in the wedding industry, and unless you've hired someone who's not using the appropriate products, everything should last pretty well, at least through the majority of your reception.

  

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• Swazzle member

  

  May 2015

  Ditto @phira. 

  
  

  My makeup was done around 12 or 1 and still looked perfect the next day at brunch. My hair was another story as I got drunk and pulled out half of the bobby pins before passing out. 

  
  
  

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• lavenderfields13 member

  

  May 2015 edited May 2015

  The way the timeline is set up the bridal party would actually be ready by 2pm if she starts on time and my MIL would go last. The parents are going to the venue together separately from the wedding party so they can be ready a little bit later. Just stinks that my BM will be getting ready at 8:15am. 

  I was thinking that the makeup and hair should last all day if she uses good products. When she did my MU for e-pics it lasted a long time!

  I guess I just feel guilty that people have to be up so early.

  
  

  When I get my hair inspiration pics ready to send to her I'll just mention I'm worried about the jam packed schedule. I need to try to just breathe- I wish I was one of those people that was laid back and didn't stress! My mom has been doing a great job of telling me to CHILL. Seriously, I don't know what I would do without that woman!

  
  

  Thank you for all your replies!

  
  

   

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Swazzle member

  

  May 2015

  Maybe she could do all of the hair and then all of the makeup? 

  
  
  

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• phira member

  

  May 2015

  I think that one of the traps that you keep falling into (and that a LOT OF US fall into, so it's not just you, I promise) is that you're anxious about being explicit about your concerns, so you're falling back on hinting. "I'll just mention that I'm worried about the jam packed schedule" is fine, but make sure you're clear that you expect some actual hard answers from her about the schedule. The last thing you want is for her to just say, "Don't worry, it'll be fine." She needs to be up front and clear about how things are going to go so that you don't need to worry. If that makes any sense.

  
  

  It can be rough. I had to tell our DJs up front that it was very important to us that they announce first names only, and I explained that it had to just be first names because I didn't change my last name, but I didn't want to worry about them mispronouncing mine. I didn't want them to just reassure me that they wouldn't mispronounce my last name because I'd still have worried about it. It was awkward to tell them all that, but they were super professional about it, and there were no problems.

  

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• lavenderfields13 member

  

  May 2015

  thank you @phira! I'm afraid of coming of as being a bridezilla and seeming too "demanding" but you guys are all right!

   

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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