Dear Prudence,
I married my husband more than eight years ago. We both have children from previous marriages. My husband was divorced for a couple of years prior to our meeting—and I for eight—so neither of us are responsible for the dissolution of the other’s marriage. My husband had a neutral relationship with his ex-wife until she learned he had remarried—at that point she ceased all phone and email contact with him. In eight years she has never answered one of his emails or phone calls! Now their daughter is getting married. It will be a very small wedding, perhaps 40 people total. My husband is paying for the wedding. I have never met this woman, and have no idea what to say or do when we come face to face, or how to avoid the awkward situation that will ensue. Any suggestions?