So, this weekend I'm working on the "group" photos we want done at the wedding. Wedding isn't til September but I figure this is a task I can get done ahead of time.
Background:
My brother and his girlfriend live together. They've been together around 4ish years. He has said that they "might" get married eventually. No matter that, they're definitely in a very committed relationship. I've not met the girlfriend though and she hasn't attended any family events and we live in different states. My brother says she's really shy so that's why she doesn't come to anything. My mom has met her a couple times as they're passing through town on the way to visit her family.
So my question is, would it be awful if I requested we do some family photos without the girlfriend in them? She would be included in some, just not all of them. Is this really mean to do? Please set me straight if it is.
FI doesn't seem to think it's a big deal, but then again, his family was gifting us things with his last name on them before we were even engaged. They also included girlfriends in their last family photos and now it's awkward since his stepbrother's now-ex girlfriend is included in the pictures hung at his stepmom's house.