I have an uncommon situation that I'd like to get some input on. An old family friend of mine is getting married this fall, but it is going to be very small -- immediate family only. They did create a registry, of comparable size and contents to our registry (my fiance and I are also getting married this fall, and have a pretty big guest list). My friend's parents are having a "engagement party/wedding celebration" for everyone who would have otherwise been invited to the wedding, but is not. We are both attending, but are unsure of how much to spend on a gift? In general we've been spending about $40 on bridal shower gifts and $200 for a wedding gift, but those have been for weddings we've attended. Do I spend $200 on this couple even though I'm not invited to the wedding? Or $40 because it's more like a wedding shower? Or somewhere in the middle?
I'm leaning towards somewhere in the middle, but wasn't sure if anyone had a good solution for something like this.