I'm not sure how to deal with a request from a guest who is a coworker of FH. Also, important to add, the wedding is six months away and invitations have not yet gone out.
When putting the guest list together, FH stressed that he really wanted a few coworker friends present at our wedding. I am not close with these people at all, but have met them on more than one occasion, and I am completely on board with inviting them. Two of them I quite like, one I don't really feel much about either way, and one I don't particularly like (but can tolerate). All four of these coworkers are going to be invited with their spouses, and received Save the Dates a few months ago.
FH informed me yesterday that one of the invited coworkers (the one I do not particularly like) requested that she bring, instead of her husband, a different coworker whom I have never met (actually, she didn't ask. She told him "I am thinking about bringing Jane as my date to your wedding!") FH doesn't see anything wrong with it because "the plate is paid for whether she brings her husband or someone completely different", but he told her he would check with me. I told him I am not comfortable with it, our wedding invitations are not concert tickets to give away, I'd like to limit the people I have never met before, and I am not going to invite a married woman with "and guest" on her invitation. This is a person he decided already was not close enough to him to invite. After discussing it, FH more or less agreed with me.
I'm not sure how to deal with this. If FH tells her "Elle won't let me/said no/isn't okay with it", I feel like it makes me look bad/controlling/bitchy/whatever. I am hoping she doesn't ask again, and when she gets the invitation addressed to her and her husband she will get the hint, but I'm afraid that is expecting too much. If she brings it up again, do I just allow it? Its not like we don't have the space or the budget or anything, we are perfectly capable of accomodating this person... I just... don't wanna.